I went to see my therapist Monday after a 4 year hiatus and touched on something very pertinent to my situation and thought I would share it with you.
She pointed out to me that it's possible I dress to make myself feel "special". I thought about this for a while and pondered on the really good times in my life, the times I felt "good", the good memories, the one's you bring up whenever you can and realized they all had to do with me being the "special" person in that memory (e.g. as a hockey coach, being the leader of a Halloween project ect...)
I then took it one step farther and realized that most of the times when I was mad or frustrated and felt the need to dress was when I was either taken out of the "special" role or had to share it.
This might seem trivial but it also opened up my eyes to my beautiful wife's feelings and I now seem to understand her needs and feelings a bit better.
I haven't posted here in quite a while as I didn't really think I had any thing meaningful to say but thought I'd share this realization with you and thought I'd see if anybody else finds themselves in the same situation.
Thanks for listening