This post spawned from a reply I started to this thread. I figured it probably deserved its own thread since it's a much tighter focus and I want to hear some replies without muddying that thread's purpose.
I'm pretty worried about being caught by my kids because I know it'd be very weird and awkward for them. They know I'm bi and didn't melt down and hate me for that, so I don't think it'd be the end of the world, and they're very mature so I'm sure they can handle it. I'm just not sure I could handle it.
Of course, the only way to not eventually be "caught" is to be honest about it up front.
How many of the girls here have kids, and have you told them? How old were they? How'd you do it?