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    My first reaction is defiantly straight. Then I started thinking about it and the idea of a man finding me attractive as a woman is quite the turn on. The question is at what point would it stop being a turn on, 1st base, 2nd, 3rd, or maybe all the way? So maybe I'm not as straight as I might have thought. Don't get me wrong I'm married and love the female body so much I'd like to have one myself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rhonda Jean View Post
    I didn't think it up! It was a real study!

    Up until recently I led a pretty sheltered life. I was over 50 before I looked at internet porn. Unbelievable.
    I mean, I'm sure it's a real study...I'm just saying it isn't that useful. The men in question probably wouldn't act out IRL on what they see in porn. More importantly, they identified as straight...that's the lifestyle they have. When forced to watch things they aren't comfortable with, they got an erection. I'm just not sure what that shows.

    On the other hand, I knew I was bisexual from a pretty young age. No one strapped anything to my clitoris or had to show me any porn for me to have that one figured out. It's sort of irrelevant though because I'm committed to a man. So, really, he's my sexual orientation. People get all hung up on their sexuality and ruin things for themselves for the craziest things. People that are bi, feeling like they need to ruin their marriages to go "explore" their sexuality. And, I'm just like, "How are you all of a sudden bi?" "Oh, well, I saw it in a porno." So, they saw something that was meant to turn them on, were turned on, thought about it too much, and went down the drainpipe in a final plunge of selfish stupidity. Sometimes people are just that repressed, but if you're gay...I bet you knew about it around the time puberty hit (if not earlier)...it wasn't dreamt up on a porno. If it dawned on your after you saw people going at it on a glowing screen, I'd chalk that up to fantasy.

    Personally, if the racy porn you watch is just gay porn, then you're a lot tamer than the rest of the Internet. The last time I watched porn, I just wanted good lesbo porn. Somehow, I stumbled upon people dressed up as pterodactyls going after some chick. Then, it was the anal prolapse porn. I can't click twice before there's a huge tentacle monster raping some cartoon chick. Seriously. It's all screwed up...what's the sexuality of those people. Hope to God it's just fantasy! Which I'm sure it is...hopefully.

    Gay/lesbian porn is old hat. It's boring. No one cares about it anymore. Your insides fall out of you or you dress like a dinosaur...if you aren't willing to do that, then it's not interesting enough to keep people going.

    I'm just saying porn turning you on means nothing now because it takes weirder and weirder stuff to get people off.

    I stick to erotic fiction, but even that has a tentacle monster making its way in every now and then.

    People are literally turned on by anything and everything. The weirder the better now. So, that study just shows what we already knew...people who said they'd never be into dudes got a little excited when they saw some strange on the screen. But, since they live a straight life, I'd say they're straight. If the porn made them "realize" that they're gay, I'd say they probably knew that long before the porn. If they aren't into guys that they see beyond the "silver screen," I'd say it's a fantasy that they thought too much about.

    Porn literally can't say much about sexuality, else 99% of people are just freaks. They would check "other" next to their sexuality.

    I know a dude that is into people furniture...no, he's not Jeffrey Dahmer...he just saw it on a porno and thought that was the end all be all of erotica. A few months later, it was a foot fetish. Did he do any of this outside of his computer world? No. People tell me way too much about themselves. You won't believe the number of "Furry" friends that I have. But, they just saw it on porno. Only one of them dresses up with it, but he was into being an animal before he discovered porn. The rest of them...heck, I don't even know. I think they just spend too much time watching it and not enough time watching the people around them/getting laid. While they were out watching gay furry porn, I was doing their girlfriends. Jk... There's also a study though about how erectile dysfunction is rampant in young men. They watch too much porn to be able to get it up when they have someone flesh and blood in front of them. It's sad. I'd say lay off the porn and get laid. You stayed away from it for 50 years, so you can go another 50. Real people are better anyway. The only good thing about porn is it gives you ideas for the bedroom...but, they ran out of ideas and had to start going with prolapse and dinosaurs. Your imagination is better.
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    Bi curious but probably with other cders only. I don't find males attractive. At all.

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    I grew up in the 1950's and became a teenager in the 1960's. I had the raging hormones. I was definitely feeling like a male teenager. There was the puppy love crushes on some girls. BUT, on occasion I did don a slip and later more. I questioned my sexuality. There was no Internet. The Kinsey report was hidden behind the librarians desk. There was no accessible porn. Play Boy was it. Very tame. Because I like wearing some of my mother's garments I thought I must have been homosexual. BUT, the term gay had not been co-opted yet. There was no delineation in society. In the terms of the day (historical now, don't jump on me for using it) I thought I was a 'queer' or a 'faggot.'

    Along time ago I gave up trying to psychoanalyze myself. I am totally straight. I never felt threatened by being in the presence of gays or lesbians. In my younger days I had been approached by a gay man or two (once in the presence of my very pregnant wife) and just declined their invitations. I never got mad at them. I considered them harmless.

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    I look straight feel straight but I am not straight in my eyes

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    Hi Rhonda,

    To quote a somewhat famous literature line "Me think thou dost protest too much" . . . not directed at you though. The homophobes in the study are most likely the product of men who have not admitted to themselves they are indeed gay hence the reaction to gay porn.

    As for myself . . . straight.

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    I have had a couple experiences. The reality does not live up to the fantasy by any means, to the point I was so embarrassed after "the act" I beat the other person up. This was twenty years ago. I was scared and confused and like a guy thinking with my thing.
    I have also had experiences with women with strap ons and still played the role of a woman. That IMO was the best. The softness and parts of a female mixed with the additional member plus the fact that she was still a woman made it work out very well.
    As for relationships I would have no interest in being with a guy unless he was super rich and move me to a secluded island in the South Pacific :-) seriously though 0 interest in an actual relationship.
    We tend to do things we normally wouldn't do when our stuff is up there, I equate it to just that.
    So not sure what that qualifies me as.

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    Shananigans has it right! People become so twisted over time that nothing gets them off...Oh,and when they die,they get screwed into the ground! lol
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    I think threads like this give credence to the community to think we are all gay and deviant. I dont see the point in discussing this sort of thing as its not productive and only goes to show any passing traffic (Non members can view the MtF part of this site) that guys who are xdressers are gay and only validates their already incorrect perception. Though I was of the misguided opinion that most CDers (not transitioning or TS) were truly heterosexual males.
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    I've never been attracted to the male form, so when I'm hanging out with my female friends in a bar or club, they might check out the men.. while I'm looking at and admiring the women. Mind you.. there's absolutely nothing wrong with crossdressers being attracted to men .. sometimes I wish I was attracted to men, it would have made my life much easier.

    I do know I'm attracted to the female form.. and in the early days of my crossdressing I called myself straight. These days, however, I've realised that if the person is femininely attractive, funny and intelligent.. I most likely wouldn't care if that person is GG, CD or TS.

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    The only thing straight around me is the 4 1/2 foot aluminum piece in my workshop that I use to mark straight lines on large boards & plywood!
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    I'm boring, truly female oriented only. Woe is me. Considered what it would be like a few times, with a guy, and of course my wife and i have a few toys and we have played around a bit, but no desire to try anything with a guy. C'est la vie.

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    Shananigans, Don't get me wrong. I don't think porn made me anything, and it's certainly not a big thing for me now. What I find unbelievable is some of the weird stuff you mentioned. I'm amazed at what turns some people on.

    Other than being a tranny, I've led such a vanilla life. I, too, think I must have had bi or gay tendencies before now. Literally, about the only evidence I can see is that I didn't get anything out of straight porn. Gay porn either, for that matter.

    Like the artist says about his sculpture from a block of stone, "It was always in there. It just needed someone to bring it out!" Yea, that's me! (Ha!)

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    not at all into dudes not even when xdressed.

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    My first experiences were with boys, and I was always totally dressed as a girl. Later on, I learned how wonderful making love with a woman could be, so I have to call myself totally bisexual, and delighted that I am. I look at the avatar in Shananigans's post here and wonder how anyone could not be attracted to that world-class beauty Mostly now though I'm with Julie and our very close friend who is a pre-op TG, like me.
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    Maybe a little bi curious but I don't find anything attractive, intriguing or sexy about a hairy ass, belly or legs. I think even if I tried, I wouldn't go all the way....foreplay would be my only fantasy.

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    Totally Bi! Love sex with both genders, tried both, really enjoyed both. In my family there's me and a late sister-Bi. A brother and 1 sister-gay. and 1 VERY homophobe brother, might he be the most gay of us all? Hope so, He's a real a**hole. HAHAHA!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ellie52 View Post
    I think threads like this give credence to the community to think we are all gay and deviant. I dont see the point in discussing this sort of thing as its not productive and only goes to show any passing traffic (Non members can view the MtF part of this site) that guys who are xdressers are gay and only validates their already incorrect perception. Though I was of the misguided opinion that most CDers (not transitioning or TS) were truly heterosexual males.
    If you wish to partake of the hairier species please keep it to yourself as I am confused enough already....Ellie
    Ellie, you're right. I was very hesitant to post on the open forum about this for a long time for just that reason. I just really wanted to know what others experiences were like. Should have kept it to myself or pm. I won't do it again!

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    Hiding who we are has caused us all LOTS of problems. There will always be small minded homophobes and we can't let them dictate to us how to talk or act! If you are too ashamed of who you are or how you dress, how can you expect anyone else to accept you?
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    I've ben crossdressing all my life, being a member of a large Crossdressing Support group and meeting many Sisters along the way. I don't think I have ever met a "Straight" crossdresser. This has always ben fine with me because I would never judge a person based on their sexual preference.

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    Just like anything else, I'm sure there are a variety of preferences with us, a total spectrum. Isn't that nice? I sure think so.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MarciManseau View Post
    Hiding who we are has caused us all LOTS of problems. There will always be small minded homophobes and we can't let them dictate to us how to talk or act! If you are too ashamed of who you are or how you dress, how can you expect anyone else to accept you?
    It's not that I'm ashamed, Marci. It's just that this is a public forum, and there's not telling how often a wife who just found out happens on to this site. She probably already thinks that any male who puts on a dress is gay, anyway. Then when she finds "evidence" like this, she's going to think her husband is gay (no matter what he says) and that life as she knows it is over. It's just a fact that conclusions like that will be reached because of what we say on this forum. Shouldn't be, but will be.

    Just about every time we read on here about someone coming out to their wife or SO, the wife's first question is, "Are you gay?" Every time I've heard of this playing out, the answer was "NO!" What we don't know is how many times the wife's next step is to go to the internet, and how many times does she end up here. Threads like this make her think her husband is lying, and she'll spend the rest of her marriage expecting the other shoe to drop. I can't help but feel a twinge of responsibility for that.

    Maybe I'm overplaying the importance of forums like this. And, it's not that I think we should conspire to hide the issue. We'd all agree that no wife or SO should judge her husband by what she reads on here, but I think that's just human nature. I think it's also human nature for everyone outside this community to think that any male who wears women's clothes is gay. Guilty until proven innocent, unfortunately.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rhonda Jean View Post
    Ellie, you're right. I was very hesitant to post on the open forum about this for a long time for just that reason. I just really wanted to know what others experiences were like. Should have kept it to myself or pm. I won't do it again!
    Perhaps I missed something, but why is this a topic that shouldn't be discussed openly? The topic question is relatively straight-(no pun intended)-forward, and I think it's very interesting to read all the different answers. It shows there are some nuances and fluidity to the orientation of crossdressers, which IMHO is a good thing to talk about.

    And why should we be worried if non-members read this? If they're genuinely interested in this topic, they will conclude that every CD is different, though most identify with being straight (for whatever that actually means). And if they're just here to get their preconceived notions confirmed, they will cherry-pick the posts that suit their notion anyway.

    Is it a bad thing if some members actually express having ambiguous feelings, not caring about gender and/or outright state that they're bi/gay?
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    Can't discuss my sexual fantasies here. Way too weird, anyway. Let me just say they always involve adult females. And, don't ever involve pain or scat!
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