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    This thread has some of the most interesting answers and interpretations of any I've ever read, and I'd hate myself forever if I didn't add my two cents:

    I think I'm as "straight" as they come. I just don't find the male form attractive. The "strain gauge," as it was mentioned, points solely toward women. But I admit that I feel very flattered when men in other CD forums tell me how attractive they think I am...until the conversation invariably "goes south" and all the flattery washes away. The only situation I think I'd like to experience with a man is to have him escort me to some fancy dance that required me to wear a long, sparkling evening gown. I'd let him treat me like a lady, but with the understanding that there was going to be nothing more to the evening. Then I think, what the hell would we talk about all night?

    Any attraction I have to other "gurls" only stems from the fact that they look like gorgeous women. It's the transformation that I love; the strain gauge points exactly the same way when I see a GG get all dolled up, too. I have no desire to have sex with another CD.

    As for porn, I've seen more than my fair share, but I was always in it mostly for the shoes, believe it or not. Heels, hose, and miniskirts. I'm much more attracted to women in full dress than nudity; if that's a fetish, so be it...

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    I'd always go straight for the Penthouse Letters or Variations. There was always something with a tranny theme in those. That's what I spent my money on. Sometimes I'd find a Tapestry (a tranny mag.) or some obscure publication that would have a picture of a crossdresser or Tgirl of some sort. Those were like gold!
    I read my first issue of Variations at a friend's house on the last day of senior year of high school. There were two "letters" that put me over the edge: one where two female roommates dressed a guy up and they all had sex, and another where a husband dolls up as a high-class callgirl who gets seduced by his androgynous wife . When she mentioned how she "slipped in to my black sheath," I almost lost my mind. It was the exact moment I realized I was a "transvestite," and I was fine with it, as long as no one else knew. About a year later I discovered the "Transvestian" newspaper on a stand in NYC, and somehow mustered up the nerve to buy it (and all subsequent issues). It opened up a whole new world to me: men who were just like me, and many who could make themselves GORGEOUS. And speaking of gorgeous

    Quote Originally Posted by Stephanie Julianna View Post
    Straight as a guy. Bi as a girl or is that the other straight?
    I think it's the "other straight", as you put it, if you adopt a female mindset. That's my two cents, and if I was attracted to men, it would be my mantra. I wouldn't care how "society" sees or labels it. It's what's in your own head that counts...

    Quote Originally Posted by Michelle_Phoenix View Post
    Never been in a relationship, but I would say that I am bi-curious atleast. I find girls attractive, and effeminate men(like J-Rockers). I've come to terms that I like the female look(a lot), but if they're a good person, gender wouldn't matter.
    Are you familiar with the J-Rocker metal band Versailles and their guitarist Hizaki? Do a Google Image Search for "Versailles Hizaki" and get ready to be blown away by beauty!

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    As a teenager I was frightened that because I crossdressed, I might be homosexual. Back in the 60's that was totally taboo, though now it is better understood and accepted. In 8th grade, I confessed my fears to my mother. That got me to a therapist who, at least, convinced me that I was not gay. I now realize I am definitely not attracted to men. On the other hand, I still can't say for certain if I am attracted to women or simply attracted to the idea of looking like one. For sure I am turned on by their dresses, hair, etc. I admire boobs, but is it just that I wish I had some of my own?

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    Quote Originally Posted by natcrys View Post
    Perhaps I missed something, but why is this a topic that shouldn't be discussed openly? The topic question is relatively straight-(no pun intended)-forward, and I think it's very interesting to read all the different answers. It shows there are some nuances and fluidity to the orientation of crossdressers, which IMHO is a good thing to talk about.

    And why should we be worried if non-members read this? If they're genuinely interested in this topic, they will conclude that every CD is different, though most identify with being straight (for whatever that actually means). And if they're just here to get their preconceived notions confirmed, they will cherry-pick the posts that suit their notion anyway.

    Is it a bad thing if some members actually express having ambiguous feelings, not caring about gender and/or outright state that they're bi/gay?
    Thats a typically selfish attitude. What if a CD's GG came here looking for answers and see some of thd replies to this thread. What is she going to think about her husband/BF and their relationship together..
    We CDers are so selfish .......
    Threads like this shouldnt be in the open forum. Members only......

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    I have a hard time understanding what part of my attitude is selfish, so many CD's.. so many opinions and varieties. I actually welcome that diversity of opinions.

    And you still haven't explained what exactly would be so troubling. Like I said, if a CD's GG genuinely comes here looking for answers, I hope that GG is smart enough after having read ALL the replies that she cannot jump to any conclusions about her own spouse's sexual orientation.

    I, for one, think it's more irresponsible to feverishly maintain this image that 99% of the CD's are as straight as x=y because it's just not true.

    (little math humour right there, thank you, thank you.. I'll be here all night)
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    When I first started to dress the shame drove me to believe I was gay. Deep down I was never was attracted to men. Most porn I prefer now is stories. Just can't picture myself dressed or drab with a man. Just doesn't work for me.

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    en femme, i am so bent, but when in drab--i'm so not into guys. i think the lipstick does something to my head, it hits the lips and poof--i'm fem.
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    When I'm dressed Im comfortable with men or other CDs. When Im not dressed I'm more comfortable with women or CDs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by natcrys View Post
    I have a hard time understanding what part of my attitude is selfish, so many CD's.. so many opinions and varieties. I actually welcome that diversity of opinions.

    And you still haven't explained what exactly would be so troubling. Like I said, if a CD's GG genuinely comes here looking for answers, I hope that GG is smart enough after having read ALL the replies that she cannot jump to any conclusions about her own spouse's sexual orientation.

    I, for one, think it's more irresponsible to feverishly maintain this image that 99% of the CD's are as straight as x=y because it's just not true.

    (little math humour right there, thank you, thank you.. I'll be here all night)
    Nat - I apologise if I offended you. I dicnt mean to. What I was trying to say was that we need to promote ourselves as valid members of society. Not some weird schizophrenic type person who is quite happy to be married to a lovely woman but as soon as Janice and Deidre from CD's R us phone up he puts on a dress and goes man hunting for a few hours then returns home to his lovely wife and kids, and wants to be dad again
    If your single - go to it , but if your married have a little respect for your partner and family.
    If this is how you want to live your life by all means do it, but its not something to brag about.
    i come here for threads like Tracii's recent post about going to the mailbox, and the interaction with the girls in the neighborhood.

    Maybe Im just too old..but I think we shouldbe aiming to promote acceptance in the community not giving people an excuse to ridicule us....Getting off my bandwagon now....Ellie
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    All of my life I have been very much only into adoring the female form. I have tried in this last year to be attracted to males. Nope. I can't do it. I am hopelessly only attracted to females. So I guess if I became a female I would be a lesbian.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ellie52 View Post
    Nat - I apologise if I offended you. I dicnt mean to.
    I'm Dutch, I rarely get offended, so don't worry about that..

    What I was trying to say was that we need to promote ourselves as valid members of society. Not some weird schizophrenic type person who is quite happy to be married to a lovely woman but as soon as Janice and Deidre from CD's R us phone up he puts on a dress and goes man hunting for a few hours then returns home to his lovely wife and kids, and wants to be dad again
    If your single - go to it , but if your married have a little respect for your partner and family.
    Are you saying that non-straight CD's are not valid members of society? I saw you using the word "deviant" in a previous post.. which I find a bit troubling.

    Anyway, what you describe here is cheating, and I don't think I saw any evidence here that anyone was advocating that. And to make it absolutely clear.. cheating is bad no matter which partner is doing it to the other partner regardless of gender.

    If this is how you want to live your life by all means do it, but its not something to brag about.
    i come here for threads like Tracii's recent post about going to the mailbox, and the interaction with the girls in the neighborhood.

    Maybe Im just too old..but I think we shouldbe aiming to promote acceptance in the community not giving people an excuse to ridicule us....Getting off my bandwagon now....Ellie
    I have so many issues with how you are describing things (deviant, schizophrenic, bragging,..) , it's turning into a subscription. What is this bragging you're talking about?

    Anyhoo, I agree with you on one thing, we should promote acceptance for all.
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    Straight all my life and just love everything about. them.However, as I 've gotten older I've become more and more bi curious,but I'd still have to be dressed and have A GG in the mix. Maybe I' m just afraid of missing out on something good.

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    Straight! I was only ever attracted to female on female porn, I refused to even watch regular porn... I always wanted to be with a girl who likes to dress me up on occasion but who also wants me to be their man in day to day life.

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    I'm not straight, I am very attracted to TG's(umbrella term) but since I'm married to a wonderful woman who I adore I live a straight lifestyle. Before marriage I had a few encounters with other CD's, I enjoyed them very much, my first kiss at age 12 was with boy the same age who loved being a girl as much as I did.

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    Being fairly new to xdressing I wondered the same thing about myself. Am I gay? My sister is gay. Is it a genetic thing? Is it ingrained or learned?
    I am also fortunate to live in Hawaii and every Sunday morning I go for a run at a park in town called Ala Moana. First, I normally sit on a bench and just watch and (sorry to rub it in for those enduring the 'polar vortex'...) enjoy the sun. One morning, the morning after I had told my wife I wanted to dress, I was sitting on the bench thinking. My wife, bless her heart, told me if makes me happy to dress then to go for it. So, I'm sitting there thinking and I am still confused about myself dressing. Not unhappy, just confused. I'm looking around and I see many very good looking women. I do look at their clothes. Athletic fem attire does not do anything for me. I like the dresses and the lingerie. Usually they are with some guy. I realized after a while, that if someone had asked me afterwards what the woman looked like I could describe her pretty well. If someone asked me what the guy looked like I'd only be able to say... oh, yeah, there was a guy wasn't there. I don't know what he looks like. I guess I'm not gay.

    There is one other thing my eyes are glued to though. Young Japanese couples travel to Hawaii for their package weddings. The guy gets a (probably rental) tux and the girl get (also probably rental) bridal gown. They are very beautiful fluffy, lacy. You know. They come to Ala Moana park to take pictures I suppose after their wedding. I cannot take my eyes off the wedding dresses. I would love to have one. It is part of my week that I always look forward to. I sit and watch. If I happen to catch their eye I always give them a thumbs up and big smile. I am happy for them and hope they have a good and loving life. Sorry... I stray from topic.

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    I love women and all things feminine but i'm also super attracted to more effete men, which makes me sorta bi I guess lol. my wife totally knows and doesn't care, thank god.

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    I rather not watch porn, I have better things to do. But the kind of porn I always liked, ever since I can remember is lesbian porn lol.
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    This thread started out fairly interesting until it began to break down into the appropriateness of discussing human sexuality publicly and on this board. I’m sorry, I really don’t want to step on anyone’s toes because you’re all so wonderful, but what in the world is inappropriate about discussing who we’re attracted to and who we’re more likely to fall in love with?

    I can understand wanting to keep certain, specific acts or practices more secret. After all, this isn’t a porn site, and if it was, I wouldn’t be here. However, human sexuality is a very important issue that I believe should be addressed out in the open and for all to see. A lack of knowledge and understanding does no one any good.

    There’s absolutely nothing lascivious about our interest in who we prefer to be with.

    For me, this subject is especially interesting. I’ve inundated myself with one scientific study after the next concerning how our brains are constructed and how the make-up of the brain affects our behavior, our belief systems and our sexual identity. Unfortunately, I’ve had very little experience with learning how everyday people feel about their desires. I’m interested in how people think about themselves and how they feel about more personal issues that we don’t discuss in ‘polite society’.

    Incidentally, who we are more likely to fall in love with seems to have been pushed aside in favor of physical attraction. For most, I think it would be the same, but for some, it may be surprising.

    Finally…

    Shenanigans, I really appreciated your view of phallometry. There’s too many reasons a man may exhibit arousal to simply say that certain, dated studies can predict sexual preference.

    The plethysmograph appears to be about as popular as the lie detector in modern science. Just like the lie detector can record skin galvanic response, the plethysmograph can detect blood flow into the penis. Unfortunately, neither are capable of explaining human responses or associating those responses with how our brains are wired. A lot more study would be required to have any significant insight.

    Okay now… I believe that the original question was to inquire about how we would self-identify in our gender attraction. I say self-identify only because that’s the only model that I’m worried about. I really don’t care what Roger Redneck, or one’s favorite talk show host, or even my therapist (if I could afford to hire one) thinks about what folks are or should be.

    As for me, there’s a lot of words that I might feel comfortable accepting as personal labels. They might include bisexual, poly-amorous or even queer. I’m not too worried about the actual tag.

    What is important is that I love my wife very much, and she loves me. We have no secrets and share a number of lifestyle attractions. (But, hers really are secret – Unless she chooses to reveal them) We share almost every aspect of our lives. Some aspects we share only emotionally, and others we share both emotionally and physically, but we are together always.

    As for the juicy stuff, I don’t mind admitting I’m attracted to both men and women. I might check out women on the streets more avidly, but they dress to accentuate their form. Men dress to hide their form.

    When it comes down to it, I’m initially and most frequently attracted to a petite woman with what would be called exotic features here in the US. Just a little shyness and a bubbly personality really captivates me.

    I’m also very much attracted to a tall, somewhat heavyset man with dark hair and dark skin. However, if they’re not very masculine and self-confident, the originally attraction quickly fades away.

    So, does that make me sexually bi-polar? But, one common, uniting characteristic – I fall in love with that strange little thing that happens when I look into another’s eyes, and I can’t explain that one.
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    I have ambiguous feelings, and they are certainly evolving. I love and admire women, and love to look at them. I'm not particularly attracted to men, but I have had 'encounters'. I find myself more and more physically attracted to men; perhaps my inhibitions are falling like veils, I don't know. I'm thrilled to wear some women's clothing, but I've never gone overboard; even just imagining is enough for me. When I do dress, or underdress, a transformation occurs...I've suddenly acutely, their thoughts, feelings, expressions, gestures. It's a wonderful feeling. Though I don't want to date men, or kiss and cuddle, I do like to invite them to my place for a nicely satisfying visit. When I'm with them like this I certainly FEEL feminine, but I've never dressed in front of a man, and although I might feel like an accommodating girlfriend inside, they see me as a man. That's more convenient, less distracting, and seems ok all round, as some men would not want to receive the same treatment from me if I were in en femme. It's my little secret, you could say. Sometimes I'll dress before they come over, and then go into drab before they arrive. I'll watch videos of women with men as tutorials, always identifying with the woman.

    I don't have a big urge to dress fully, go out, or come out as a cd. Perhaps I'm just so full of inhibitions it's squashed, and I'm sure many of my sisters here probably think that I'm fooling myself or something, but that's were I am.... I've dressed and been with girls, and really loved it in an uncomplicated way. Perhaps if I met the right guy or gurl, my feelings would quickly evolve...(that's a hint for anyone in the Bay Area, lol)
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    I'm straight. There has never been any doubt in my mind. I've known it since I was 4 that I was interested in girls. As a cder I can find other t girls attractive but my mind always tells me that underneath the dress, wig and makeup. It's a male.
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    My first experiences of sexual intimacy were with other males. In high school I had to repress that part of myself to survive socially. Once in college I was able to be intimate with men again but I always had girlfriends too. The main difference between me and my gay friends is that they wouldn't want to be with a woman, which I thoroughly enjoy.

    So I do believe there is an element of repression that can and does happen as a result of familial and cultural influences. As we get older perhaps we can begin to peel back some of the conditioning and become more fully who we are.

    Anyone who attempts to generalize this phenomenon to all cross dressers, however, is making a narrow-minded judgement.

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    I don't know what my sexuality is and don't have a desire to explore it, because I don't like the idea of experiencing those lonely feelings from the majority of humanity wanting to be with someone. I've never been a sexual person, but I have been aroused from various things that would probably be offensive and vile to the public's morality. I didn't think much of it. I don't think it can be defined with simple terms. Love, as far as the personality, was always hard to contemplate of not seeing it as inconvenient, which was never just confined to partnership.

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    As a man I am only attracted to females, not attracted to cds or other men. As Trisha, I am still very attracted to women, but have a fantasy to share a man with my wife and when I say share I mean every way possible a woman would please a man. Has to be a manly man, not effeminate. I do not get turned on by men, but I get turned on by being a woman. When I watch porn I will watch straight porn or CD porn to imagine me being her, I especially like CD/GG porn. But the best is a GG, a CD and a man, where the ladies are taking care of each other and the man. Don't think this makes me Bi, probably will never happen, just a fantasy I will go to my grave with. I guess maybe I am a straight man and Bi woman.

    I love my wife more than anything. Probably the most important thing to me is that she is satisfied. I can't say I don't want to be satisfied as well, but if she is than typically I am too.
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    I guess you could say I'm as straight as they come, in that I don't think I would ever be able to actually go through with and do anything with a man, no matter how much I fantasize about it. I said this in another thread, but while I'm dressed, I'm attracted to the "unit." However, what comes with the unit isn't attractive to me at all.

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    MaryBeth, I feel the same way, like the unit, not what it is attached to.

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    I love women, but would also (but never have) have relations with other t-girls. A guy would have to be very feminine to consider it.

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