So you are out dressed and a man comes up and hits on you...

[paulaprimo]

a CD'er hit on me once and i told her i wasn't interested...but we are still friends and she still tries...

the only guy to ever hit on me, was a sucker punch to my head outside of a bar...this was my 2nd time out.
got real ugly after that with police and ambulance had to come. thank God there were witnesses
as he tried to press charges against me. i was more scared when i had to give the cops my info,
but when the one cop said as far as he was concerned, "justice has been served" that made me feel a lot better. the case was later dropped.
now, the cop was cute and if he had asked me out, i would of said when?

[Lexi_83]

I've only been approached once. Was a late night stroll in a town square type setting. Fairly dimly lit, some guy caught me off guard by riding up on a bicycle. He rode by and turned around and rode back to me.
All he said was hi, but I knew what was going on. Scared witless, more of being clocked, than personal safety. If the situation had turned for the worse, he may have found out what Hell on Heels is. All I could say was hey, and I turned and walked away from him back to my car. Needless to say he headed in the same direction at a distance, kind of paralleling my path. When I got to my car he was about 20 ft. away. He said "your beautiful and I thought you looked upset. I just want to make sure your OK, and that you know your beautiful". Still slightly in panic mode, I just drove away. I finally calmed down, and the reality sank in. How flattering it was to be noticed and appreciated.

Yes, I prefer to be flattered without being scared out of my wits as well!

[Lexi Moralas]

I had been in this situation a few times , I always wore an woman's engagement and wedding ring set. I would just hold up me left hand sorry but I am happily married. Which is actually the truth lol.
I think wearing the rings kept some guys from approaching me in the first place which is kind of why I wore them.

[prettygirl4]

I'm bisexual (and a pretty sexual person in general), and it happens fairly often so usually i'm all in. There can be a lot of CD's at gay bars, which always makes for a fun evening

[GinaD]

If he is polite and attractive, I smile and introduce myself and see where things go. If he is rude or unattractive, I do what GGs do, and let my body language and disinterest speak for me. If he is persistent, I tell him straight out I am not interested in meeting anyone. IF he still doesn't get it, I get rude right back.

[Lexi_83]

It also helps if you have a male escort or are with a group, your friends run interference....

[meganmartin]

It has happen a few times and it is very flattering.
But all i said was sorry I am happily married.
that typically shocks them and they go away.

[Persephone]

At my age, and wearing engagement and wedding rings, it doesn't happen very much! But it does happen and , just like when it happens to any other woman, feelings depend upon circumstance.

1) It can be terribly annoying - got together with a TS friend one day, we were having a quiet drink and chat but some lounge lizzard kept hitting on us. Hard to have a pleasant conversation with a girlfriend when lizzard keeps butting in and won't take "No" for an answer.

Same with the "stalker" that kept hitting on me (click here) on my morning run.

2) At parties guys ask you to dance - very nice! Very flattering! But don't want it to go further after the dance.

Men are frail creatures and I believe that such encounters should be handled as nearly every other woman would handle them - use your charm and feminine wiles to let him down easy, to tell him no without really hurting his feelings. Catch and release.

Hugs,
Persephone.

[Tara D. Rose]

I always take the nice approach to the situation.

[Alice Torn]

I recently had a nice conversation about fishing with a VA nurse, and finally asked her if she was single. She just said, "You're funny!" Maybe i would say, that, plus a big thank you much!

[Alice Torn]

Tara Rose, That guy sounds a like like Curley of the Three Stooges!! Hey there "toots"!

[Jennifer Devine]

Buy me a drink and i'm all yours ;-) Is what I would say in my dreams lol

[Kristy 56]

Probably ask him when the last time he had his eyes checked. Seriously,I'd be flattered and then politely tell him I'm into women.