1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
To express my feminine side
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
Yes I am
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
Yes!
4) When you and your SO are alone together, would you prefer she used female words in referring to you ("we girls"), or would you prefer she rely on your clothes to determine how to refer to you? (So refer to you as a man when you're in drab.) Assuming she knows the situation, of course.
I always prefer to be the man around her so that she feels like I am still the man she married. Although, she does help me with shopping and is supportive. But, it just makes me feel more comfortable being the man.
5)What do you do for your SO to show how you feel about her acceptance?
I talk with her and let her know I appreciate it, and try to make her feel loved by showing it though her love languages: acts of service, and gifts. Dates, dishes, cleaning, etc.
6)Let's say that when you were in the closet, you liked your SO to be very stereotypically feminine (manicure, sexy outfits, high heels).
Once you come out to her, do you still prefer her to dress ultra-sexy, or have you stopped caring as much what she wears?
I love my ultra feminine wife. She just is a girly girl and I love that about her.
7)What have you done in the relationship to improve it, so your SO also feels the benefit of supporting you?
I think the most important think I have done is come out to her about my CDing because she deserves the real me and we can grow together and be stronger if we are both complete in ourselves.
8)For those CDers who have undergone more permanent changes, such as ear piercing, waxing, laser or electrolysis (not HRT--I'm gearing the changes to physical, not chemical)--do you feel more at peace with yourself even on the occasions when you have to present as male?
I guess it may be easier because I am 26, but I have had my ears pierced since 19 and it has always been a style for me, and my wife never knew me before my ears being pierced. They are stretched to size 0 (10mm), and I think with the right ear rings it can look both really masculine or feminine. But, It does make me feel more at peace and I love having my ears pierced.
9) Whats the blue eye shadow all about ????
I dunno. I have only worn eye shadow once and it was silver so...not quite sure.
10) Would you go into a relationship with the only reason the GG is accepting?
Nope. There is more about a person than the way they dress. Just accepting someone who accepts you for that alone is not enough. Find a SO that is accepting, fun, you connect with, and who has a personality and values that mesh with yours.
- Much Love!
-CJ
