I was just sitting here typing on this site when the wife comes up behind me. I didn't hear her come down the stairs. She puts something on a shelf. I switch to another web site as fast as I could. I try talking her before she went back up stairs but she didn't say a thing.
GLENDA
I FEEL LIKE A WOMAN
Even though my wife knows about me dressing, and that I visit sites about crossdressing I still don't like looking at them when she is in the same room.
I am lucky that even though there are 2 ways to get our computer room, the way she normally comes is in front of me and I can see her coming. The other way is behind me, but she has to go through a door and I can hear it opening.
So even though I don't have to hide the sites I visit, I still feel uncomfortable looking at them when she is in the room.
Sorry Glenda
I'm lucky in that regard - my wife knows also, but my PC is down in the basement so I can hear anyone coming down a mile away.
My wife knows, but disapproves, so she just shouts shrilly, "Get off that site!" when she comes into the computer room. I am mostly on the site when she is asleep on the couch or gone somewhere.
I hope it works out OK, Glenda.
She knows I am on the site. Not exactly thrilled by it. Invited her to join many times, who knows maybe she has and is keeping mumHugs
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Oh What a tangled web we weave , when first we practice to deceive.
Yeah that doesn't look suspicious at all...remember to clear your cache
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Even though I have come out to my wife, I am still subject to the 'WHAT ARE YOU DOING?' questions when I am online. Any good anwer?
Sounds like a ready made market for Google Glass...
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Rinse and curl your hair - Loosen your hips, and get a dress to wear" Stefani Germanotta
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Just clearing the cashe won't cut it , deleted file aren't really deleted , the space is marked as unused and eventually will be written over but until then it's just sitting there waiting to be recovered. $40 and a quick stop at staples can provide a recovery program that will dig up all your secrets! But the same programs usually have a clean up feature to permanently delete files. This is defiantly worth looking into believe me
When my BFF is here for the weekend I get on here with her and its not a problem.
We went shopping yesterday and found a few girl things for my alter ego.She is a great lady and enjoys my girl side.
But you're obviously dealing with serious trust issues if either you or your SO have to resort to those kind of things.Originally Posted by Lexi Moralas
Anyway, I don't envy anyone here who gets policed by their wife as if they're a twelve year old and I really don't envy any SO whose cross-dressing husband behaves like one. Either way, time to get real.
Glenda,
If you must operate furtively, make sure your security screens are in place.
Maybe this is the time for that conversation.
Work on your elegance,
and beauty will follow.
My wife will pop into the computer room once in a while and it may appear to me that she is interested in what I may be viewing. I don't know if she is aware of my journey on this site, and, I really do not care. I reconciled my feelings a long time ago. It's DADT so I make an effort not to visit here when she is around just so the discomfort level is not elevated. The same will be said for checking out women's clothing on eBay and other sites. I use Mozilla Firefox so my history is deleted when I completely close out of any session. If she wanted to go through the effort of buying a program to ferret out my computer logging on, then have at it. Same with keystroke programs.
My wife's computer is about four feet away from mine at a right angle to mine. She can just turn her head to see what I'm doing. She goes on Facebook and I go here and other transgender sites. I show her or tell her interesting transgender or cd posts and pictures and she shows me whatever she finds interesting. She gets a little bored with trans issues, I get a little bored with Facebook. But mostly we just entertain each other with internet trivia and the billion stories on the web. She certainly agrees that it beats me ranting about politics, which I only rarely do now. We're both relieved that I've found new no-stress interests that we now have in common, like fashion and make-up. It's hard to rant about those!
The only thing I don't do in front of her is to look at porn. I always close those windows and use some form of private browsing. She's not interested in porn and although she doesn't care what I look at I think it's just good manners and a sign of respect to keep that private.
Safari has a Private Mode, so does Chrome for Windows.
That works both ways Lorileah when I use my wife's laptop she never clears anything I know exactly what she spent my hard earned cash on !
Do I say anything ? would I dare ?
Glenda I usually have solitiare opened up so I can flip to it to it as a cover.
Last edited by Teresa; 02-17-2014 at 03:04 PM.
This could also be a respect and comfort issue.
My wife is aware (we had the talk) and it makes her unhappy. I am secretive about my activities, not because I worry what she will say, but out of respect for her feelings.
Best wishes
MsVal
Yesterday when I read Jenniferathome's cute conversation with her wife about dressing and cleaning house, the first thing I did was to show my wife, who just started giggling.
If you can't bring your wife into your time on this site, then diligence is essential. If it's DADT, then it has to be done carefully to keep it out of her sphere as a part of the agreement. If it must be a completely hidden part of you, then don't take any chances.
Let's face it, if the simple processes of keeping it out of her sphere isn't enough, the spiral down has already started.
Sounds like you recovered from that one fairly well Glenda although doing the panic screen switch can sometimes be a real giveaway. Many years ago I had a boss that liked to play games on his PC in his office but when you would walk up to his doorway he would switch screens to look like work. This was before the internet and there was no internal company surveillance of computers but everyone had him figured out. He was/is a brilliant engineer so no one cared anyway.
Funny situation when a couple of weeks ago my wife comes in my office and wants me to look at something online so I open my browser and up pops CD.com because it was already opened as I had forgotten to close it. So I did the panic switch as fast as possible but then she says “who are all those women that were on your computer”? Well, I just dismissed it as some internet advertisement and went on to her requested site which then became the center of our discussion. I did have to crack an internal smile that she saw all the avatars on CD.com as "all those women". Now I am totally not out as a CD to anyone that I know, including my wife, so I have been very meticulous with hiding things but I don’t plan on being in the closet for that much longer so I think I am getting lax the less I care what others may think.
Hugs,
Stephanie
"Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing." Helen Keller (The Open Door)
"I give her my heart but she wanted my soul...But don't think twice, it's all right" Bob Dylan (1963)
i know that some forums have different color modesfor viewing at night or during the day to ease eye strain. I wish this forum had a secure mode where it only showed CDS.com in the address bar and the logo was far more discrete. This doesn't necessarily apply to me, but there are a lot of sisters who could use the additional security. Arent there browsers that have a flip button to switch to another screen or page? for secure browsing purposes?
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A couple of weeks ago, I was called away from my laptop in the living room and I mistakenly left theCD.com window open. The next evening at dinner, my wife says," We need to talk..... I know your little secret!" That's how our "talk" began and it was very open and objective, as calm and supportive as it could be. Once she understood that there is no other woman, that I am not a homosexual, and our future is secure, she accepted that I wear lingerie but does not want me to go out and get pictures taken that could make their way onto the Internet and into the faces of our kids and grandkids. I had to agree with that. It all started because of an open computer screen, but I have to say that now I am somewhat relieved that things are now not nearly so secretive. DADT.
hey gurls,it is so frustrating,the way most of us live our lives,i'm so happy for those of us who have supporting wives,girlfriends,such a pity that we all don't have them,
there is no way that I could ever get my wife to read anything on this site,her mind is made up,she doesn't want me dressing fem,even tho she didn't seem to mind before we were married,so I thought I had it made but all changed after we got married,fastest honeymoon ever,lol
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