I got started on this in another thread... and it was on the subject of who WE are vs that THEY see. We have what makes us feel good, but that is tempered by what the rest of the world sees.
A lot of threads here are on how to look a particular way. Its great we have it available to us, but look at that for a sec... How do we send Y signals rather than X signals? We want to do that on purpose.
We want our world to perceive us a particular way. So we make choices that change that view. Clothes. Attitude. That first 3 seconds. That is what we care about. When people see you and make 100 different decisions about who and what you are.
You send a message about what role you fill when you do that. Guardian or caretaker? Confidant or wingman? Threat or safe?
We do this on purpose. What things are only possible as her and not as him?
- MM