I consider some of my first acts of cross dressing, to not be dressing at all, but rather shaving my body hair. I started it due to swimming, but kept at it, because I liked it.
Once I met my now wife, I explained to her that I occasionally like to shave. She did not mind, but once I began to do it regularly she let me know that she really liked my hairy bod and she kind of complained about me shaving it. Not vehemently, but politely. I in turn asked her to try growing out her body hair and seeing what it felt like. She got to about 2-3 weeks, was terribly annoyed by it, and shaved it all off. From that point forward she has understood that how I choose to keep my own body hair is my own choice.
I feel the same way about telling her how to keep her hair. I once had a good friend tell his wife in front of me that she was not allowed to cut her hair shorter than it was at that time. She said "okay." I was shocked by this. My wife can keep her hair however she wants to, in fact she shaved it all off once, from her head, and I encouraged her to give it a go and was thrilled she went for it!
My point is, shouldn't how anyone keeps their hair be their own choice? If you don't care, and do it to make some else happy, obviously that is different. But to be told how one has to keep their body hair, wow, I personally would revolt pretty quickly from that. What say you?