I had a similiar conversation with my therapist last week. For most (non-CD) clothes are jus clothes, something that must be put on to not expose oneself or to keep warm. The choice of clothing comes from societal expectations. For me wearing women's clothes is so much more, it is a statement to myself to say it is ok to be me. That being said, I do not want to be noticed, I try to underdress and wear a LARGE shit to cover up. But the fact I have on MY clothes on underneath brings a sense of serenity, calmness, comfort, that is to hard to explain.