I think I have tried replying to this thread about 3 times now, get distracted and never finish it. So I am on a mission!
I prefer to use the pronoun for how I am presenting. As far as the forum goes, I am always presenting female even if I havent shaved in a few days
I can say, I do not like being called hon, reminds me too much of hun. Last time I checked I am neither Asian, nomadic nor ravaged Europe in roaming hordes during the 4th century.