Hey MM - I suspect all of us feel isolated form time to time... It may not be anything to do with the forum - some of it may just be the nature of people?
You say that you feel the default here is "to transition or pass.." - I don't see that as a default, but I can understand how that might come across in the way folk post and the subject matters we have here - I think I understand what you're getting at, and yes, it may mean you're in one minority here, but the fact is we are a very fragmented community in what passes for our patterns of behaviour and core needs. What underlies your frustration at not seeing more interaction from DiDs (if I may be permitted) is probably partly to do with the way DiDs present, and from your perspective, you may also be in another minority as pansexual - each time we add one of our own individual elements of uniqueness, the group we could directly associate with becomes naturally smaller.
But it shouldn't mean you're excluded from having relevant opinions, views, perspectives on CD as a whole - goodness, we're such a minority in the global population we need every fragment we can muster! Probably the majority here - if there is one - falls into Wild's observation (Wild'll love me saying this I'm sure...) - it's mainly about clothes and closely related to the sexual fantasies we may have had earlier in our CD development. Some of us move forward from that, for all sorts of reasons, but that low-level (my definition, nor meant as a pejorative) CD is not heavily discussed here because, frankly, there's not much to discuss! Moving on from that (rapidly), for me the next broad level of development is the closeted CDs, somewhat like myself - this is where you get more interaction, simply because the nature of what is practiced becomes more visual, more interactive - and it's easy to be closeted and still talk about this. I could go on but probably shouldn't...
Bottom line: You may be in a minority that isn't vocal for lots of good reasons, but that shouldn't stop you posting here, raising your discussion points, sharing what you can share and providing a point of education for those of us who want to understand you and others and everyone, but haven't had the exposure to your perspective. Personally, I feel that having found this place, I sort of have a responsibility to stay here and keep spouting, because we are such a fragmented minority and we need all the diverse support from this broad community we can get.
Hugs and kisses MM - you may not be my type, but you are my friend..
Katey x