I've also come to sometimes want what is behind the zipper. I don't really find men attractive like I do women, but there are certainly parts of men I can enjoy!Originally Posted by Erika_girliegirl
I've also come to sometimes want what is behind the zipper. I don't really find men attractive like I do women, but there are certainly parts of men I can enjoy!
If it feels right look all you want. I'm not going to tell you your right or wrong even if you act on it. All I'll say is if your thinking of acting think of your wife first of her feelings.
Angie
The human form can be a beautiful thing. If you appreciate the appearance of someone, you do.
Sex isn't just about breeding. It is about giving & getting something reciprocal from someone you like. They didn't get to pick their gender, neither did you (at first).
People get so hung up about what the 'right' kind of bits to like. How about focusing on what kind of *people* you like?
<3
- MM
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I am only attracted to females and have little attraction to males. That being said, I do at times fantasize and dream about being with a guy. It may be lame but I would love to go on a date with a guy, all dressed up and be treated/viewed/respected/accepted as the girl I appear to be.
And there is nothing wrong with wanting that, dear. Everyone wants to be accepted for who they are. Because of our particular slice of the gender identity pie, we have a harder time than some folks.
- MM
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"I yam what I yam and tha's all what I yam." -- Popeye the Sailor
"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? And when I am for myself, what am 'I'? And if not now, when?" - Hillel the Elder
I guess part of me is still stuck between the 60's and a romance novel... Lol...to me it is never the particular physical form that attracts me to a person, nor what gender they present, but rather their smile, their laugh, their heart and most especially their eyes. Yeah...eyes. If all that is right, honey, at least for me...everything else is going to take care of itself...Sigh. Just call me a romantic, I guess...yeah, theres a label I can live with...tee hee.
Samantha... I'm right there with you!
Personality is sexy. Intelligence is sexy. Confidence is sexy. Health is sexy.
I *love* being fussed over.. (My wife sent me flowers at work on V-Day). I'm very much a romantic.
- MM
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"I yam what I yam and tha's all what I yam." -- Popeye the Sailor
"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? And when I am for myself, what am 'I'? And if not now, when?" - Hillel the Elder
Somehow, I bet we are not alone, MM...tee hee...especially in this bunch.
LOL
My suggestion - Don't say anything to your wife about finding men sexually attractive. Or anyone else for that matter.
As for what that makes you, look up various definitions and decide for yourself. My opinion doesn't count.
I'm married also and do think of being with men when I'm dressed so it's not so strange in my eyes. I've also been with a few fem when dressed and it's be a very lovely time so for some of we gurls it's kind on natural so don't fret about it.
Hmm. As a GG, I can't help focusing on the fact that you have a wife. Or rather, the fact that you are in a committed relationship - it doesn't matter what gender is your partner.
What bothers me is the fact that you are sexually attracted to people who are not your partner. I've been there. I didn't act out on it for the longest time, but in a moment of weakness, I did. This changed my marriage (my ex never did find out), but I changed. Needless to say, the marriage is no longer.
Be careful.
But ... maybe guys think about sex differently than women do, and they can better compartmentalize it? Still, IMO you're playing with fire.
Reine
Krisi, I have to disagree with you here. To borrow a phrase from our gay friends, "Silence = Death".
If you can't tell your partner, someone who is supposed to be your "Best Friend Evah", who can you tell? If you can't, what kind of life is that?
Just because you like men doesn't mean you no longer like HER. If you like chocolate ice cream, does that mean you no longer like vanilla?
Your opinion DOES count.
The rest of what you say I agree with.
- MM
- Madame Moose - on my way to Anne
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"I yam what I yam and tha's all what I yam." -- Popeye the Sailor
"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? And when I am for myself, what am 'I'? And if not now, when?" - Hillel the Elder
well it makes you a crossdresser who frequently thinks about other men, especially cd's or tv's, and likes to look at a little crotch from time to time, all the while still enjoying sex with your wife.
I'd say that it really doesn't make a lot of difference in the fantasy realm. If it moves you to action at some point in the future, then it may be necessary to think about where things actually sit for you and the implications going forward. Otherwise, enjoy!
Well, since you asked, it makes you bisexual. No straight man thinks about other men's "crotches" or any part of a man. Now, if you act on this, it makes you a bisexual adulterer. THAT's a problem.
I think of other sexy crossdressers, TV, and TG's even if I don't dress now. I think I am leaning more to being an admirer now, but I wouldn't mind still dressing too. As far as thinking of men, I don't really. I have, but it isn't on a regular basis. I am not attracted to them.
I have to believe that being honest with yourself is one of the strongest drives crossdressers share. When I resolved to live my two realities I started looking at everything differently. Perhaps if you frankly share your thoughts & desires with your SO you may very well learn you both have the exact thoughts in common with each other. You may be amazed to discover the SO has had exactly the same thoughts & desires! From that approach you may be on a voyage of discovery togather. Above all honesty with yourself & your SO's works.
Hi
I wish she has same thoughts, but I am afraid to destroy her support for my cross dressing. At the same time, I can hold my desire for a bi encounter. I guess that is part of me and who I am. I had experiences when I was a teen, and still remember them fondly
Kisses
Heather
You are hungry for what you are hungry for.
My wife not only knows I'm Bi, we have talked about it extensively. She accepts it and LIKES it. She knows I'm committed to HER and US. She still fantasizes about me getting railed by a bunch of guys.
Would she ever actually arrange that? probably not.. but fantasies are just that. The brain is the biggest sexual organ in the body. It should be free to play.
<3
- MM
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"I yam what I yam and tha's all what I yam." -- Popeye the Sailor
"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? And when I am for myself, what am 'I'? And if not now, when?" - Hillel the Elder
Thank you Hun for the support
I tend to think relationships are fashioned according to the needs of the people in them. Not everyone rolls the same way. What is important to one couple might not be to another. I guess the key is that both partners agree to the same ground rules and both are happy with those rules. I tend to think it is a big world with room for everyone to find the right person for them, if only other people would stop placing restrictions on other people rather than themselves.
There's really nothing wrong with being who you are Heather. A lot of people are very judgmental about bisexuals - even people who should know better and have no business casting stones... Sucks, but that's the way it is. There's nothing wrong with fantasizing though.
My wife and I are similar. We both have some active fantasy life. She has fantasies about her being with other women, from time to time is turned on by male on male gay porn, as well as my femme self being taken by a man in front of her.
I certainly have fantasized about men getting it with my femme self but never as male. But the thing is we would never act on it, well never say never but I think we both figure the fantasy is probably better than the real thing. My conscience would not allow me to step outside of my vows, the guilt alone would eat me alive.
I say who cares what it "makes you." I've never really cared for labeling everyone and everything. But I would say that if you are having these urges talk to your wife about it. If she supports your crossdressing, there may very well be a part of her that suspects you have such urges. Maybe you can find support there, perhaps shared fantasies or something of the like. Certainly don't do anything behind your wife's back, that will only end up hurting the both of you.
Femme self... so presenting as female, but still owning male gear.
I do that. My BF comes over and likes me in pink.. panties, skirt, cute top, stockings... I love our time together but I'm still ME. I'm not a girl (but I wish I could be) and I totally get the idea of being the girl as a role. But at the heart of it I like the idea of a guy who *wants* me. There is nothing wrong with that.
That is healthy and normal. Fidelity to your partner matters. I only have access to feed that part of me because I have my wife's permission (with one specific person). If I didn't have that, I'd never cheat on her. I made promises, and I'd hate myself if I didn't keep them.
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"I yam what I yam and tha's all what I yam." -- Popeye the Sailor
"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? And when I am for myself, what am 'I'? And if not now, when?" - Hillel the Elder
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