My S/O and I finally had time to sit down and talk about this whole business since she found out last week. Of course first questions:
"Do you want to become a woman?" No
"Are you gay?." No
"Do you want to be with a man while dressed up?" I admitt`ed that I have had fantasies about it but never acted on it, and probably never would.
"Do you want to dress like that all the time?" No
"How often do you do it?" When the mood strikes me, sometimes days in between.
"Do you wear all the makeup and stuff?" Not yet but I would like to try it. A little resistance here, I cant blame her. We'll see.
"Do you go to any of the websites, to look at pictures?" Yes
"Do you like them?" Yes some times. I like seeing how they dress and do their makeup. And sometimes the really pretty ones are exciting. She agreed. She did some homework obviously.
"Are you gonna be more girly now? I don't want a lesbiam type relationship." I assured her that my demeanor doesn't change much when I'm dressed. I'm not a macho type to begin with..she's seen me cry at certain times, and we've often joked that I am sometimes more feminine than she is.
"Are you in some online romance or anyhing like that" No.
"You don't have a Girl's name, do you?" Whoops..had to fudge a bit here. But since I didn't until I registered here I fibbed. No. will work on that one too.
Basically she wanted to know that the same person is still here and that she is not gonna come home to a girl everynight. Maybe sometimes..but she still needs the scruffy guy in the Grungy sweats and baseball cap. I assured her that he will still be here and will be around as much as he wants.
Not a bad start, we talked a bit about when and how often she wants to see this, and she has even admitted some gender reversing fantasies of her own in the bedroom as well as taking a more dominant role at times which is another thing I wanted to explore with her. So we shall see. I'll keep you posted if you like.