I have not been able to visit very much or for very long lately for a
variety of factors, so just an update.
As some may know, I had “the talk” with my wife back in February but we
have been steadily working through things. I still believe that if family
and financial factors had been different, she would have walked, but they
aren't and she didn't. The situation has calmed and things are playing out
as well as I could have expected I think.
We are still good friends, laugh together, do things together and so on. I
still do everything I can around the house to remain who she has known all
these years. But the “romance” is gone physically. Part of that is the
knowledge on her side of who I am, part of it has todo with changes in my
body (HRT) and part of it is simply the fact that she is post menopausal
and almost always too tired and just not interested. Since my libido is
virtually absent these days, the lack of physicality is not really a
problem. As time passes it is still possible that we will split. She may
find she wants to, or I may. But for right now, friendship and compromise
keep us together.
Last week she helped me pick out some earrings and necklaces.
And last night we both went to the spa and enjoyed massages in a couples
room followed by both of us having facials. It was amazing. (another first
for Sammie – the facial)
Last night we were sitting on the patio and she carefully wrote down the
dates for when I plan to be away dressed (taking a trip to Toronto with
three friends in a few weeks – Yay!) and it was all very matter of fact. I
try to limit dressing to once every three weeks for now, to make it easier
on her.
Then, as the sun went down, we sat there drinking martinis and we
reminisced about our 2 ½ decades together and all the things we had shared.
It was lovely.
No promises. No expectations.
Just, day by day.
For now, its all good. And in this very uncertain world, who can ask for
more.
Hugs
Sammie ( feeling very blessed today)
Originally Posted by samantha rogers
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