Emi, is so right! I have been saying this for decades, since being in recovery from a toxic family of origin. The Price Charming/Cinderella fairy tale act we are told by society to play before marriage, is a reipce for disaster! People need to stop being in denial and phoney , to attract a mate, and just be real! Men need to put off the Superman, and Prince Charming costumes, and GG's need to put off the Cinderella, and Wonder Woman costumes, and be real to the future mate. We need to reveal the good, the bad, and the ungly to our potential mates. As bad as that sounds, it would save a lot of negative surprises later on, and divorces. And, that means admitting and discussing CDing before engagements, too. Sadly, the fairy tale weddings keep happening. Look at Prince Charles/Diana! I have been to so many "fairy tale" type weddings , back in the 1980's, and so many are long divorced now.