I notice that many times on here many of us seem to be "asking permission" of society or whoever to be allowed to express ourselves and crossdress. Since when do we have to ask anyone permission to be ourselves? I understand when in a committed relationship it may be appropriate to come to some terms when expressing ourselves but is it logical to think that is going to curb who we are? Despite compromises with loved ones we are most likely going to figure out how to do it somehow, some way. This is how many of us get into trouble with our SO's as we sometimes have to resort to deception and manipulating things in order to carry on. It is indeed a powerful compulsion this process of crossdressing. Like any process, however, if left without direction it will take on a mind of it's own and lead us around. The only way I have found over the years to "beat" it is to make it a total choice to do rather than let it remain a compulsion. We also need to take ownership of it and take all responsibility for what we do.
That being the case I have become my own person and while I don't broadcast to everyone what I do, I'm not ashamed of it either, as if it makes me a lesser man, it doesn't. The bottom line is that like it or not, this is who I am and if others can't deal with that--oh well! I can handle the fact that it works for me even if it doesn't work for them. There is no such thing as a perfect world so the best thing we can do is utilize the one we have to our advantage. That is one way we learn.Like it or not, we are all who we are for a reason.
