I get PMs all the time saying "I can't go to a XYZ Group OUTing because I am not pretty enough." From various CDers who have getting OUT enfemme on their bucket list. They don't go OUT because they feel that others in the group are WAY more beautiful than they are. Obviously not referring to me. Certainly others in our group or others in different group. But for sure not me. But I have been deceitful.
In reality you do not have to be beautiful to go OUT enfemme. My earliest ventures out were way back when I started CDing, all of a year and a half ago. I in no way was convincing at all. So I kept my distance from others. let me tell you it was difficult being inconspicuous walking through the mall when I really was sliding down the concourse with my backside plastered to the wall, shuffling my feet side to side. No one noticed my makeup wasn't perfect for sure. Maybe the shuffling was the dead giveaway!?!??? But no one said anything. Mostly because I CHOSE APPROPRIATE VENUES AND TIMES! THAT is more the key, I have found. Over time, as I improved my presentation, I realized that small babies no longer cried out in terror as I passed by, as my ears no longer experienced the howling of the dogs and hissing of the cats in the pet store, I began to have some confidence. Now as long as it is dark enough, as long as they confiscate everyone's eyeglasses upon entering, I can walk through any public location, at night, during a power failure, sky overcast, with complete confidence that no one will realize I an a CDer. Until I trip over something in the dark and cuss like a sailor anyway. Sorry CDer sailors.
So it is time for a confession of sorts. I have a full time photo retoucher on staff. For the first time I am posting what I really look like.
A formal standard is set:
You may attend our Group OUTings or be confident in attending any other group OUTing anywhere in the world, as long as you have no excessive body hair or beard, forms or your own boobs, women's clothing, shoes, accessories, wig or your own appropriate length hair, some lipstick, and an appropriate purse. Please put some effort in to it so you look as best as you can. BEST AS YOU CAN does not mean supermodel. If you look better than I do in any one way, you will be fine. Two ways better and you qualify for the lead CDer hot chick of the group position.
It really is more about appropriate attire, confidence, posture, movement, and voice (which can be a whisper) than anything else.
It really took a lot of guts for me to expose myself like this. So please be kind, provide lots of appropriate praise for how beautiful I am. Also make comments like you see no issues of any kind, that certainly I am entitled to go OUT and be unnoticed, that in the right places and at the right times, as is the case for everyone, even supermodels (of which I am not one), that I too can "pass".
Get OUT! Have FUN! A bucket list should always be on clean paper because the previous list was all done!
Billie
Originally Posted by Desirae
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