So, what is it anyway? I believe it is highly subjective. I do believe that there are many members even some of the gg'a who struggle with the concept. IMO, it is not about liking
I also feel that an expectation that our s/o'a family, friends or anyone else should "like" it. They likely won't, and that is ok
For me when I came to the realization that my wife isn't likely to ever truly like it but is still planning a lifetime future with me I began to not feel so conflicted about just being me. I accepted that she and most others will find CDing, difficult, award and perhaps uncomfortable.I I believe that by not adding anew expectation or pressure on my wife to like it has made a difference and easier to deal with.