TS responses only. I.e., if you are post-op, post-transition, on prescribed hormones, or in active transition (meaning in RLE/pre-op).
In the spirit of spinning threads from spun-off threads to avoid derailments (I just love the mixed transportation metaphors here), I thought I'd ask about the philosophy and utility of what is colloquially known as tossing people under the bus - in this case for detransitioning.
I have chosen my terms purposefully. Specifically, "philosophy" and not ethics or morality. While I have no particular problem with anyone keeping their own counsel on the latter (as long as they are civil about it), I believe there's a discussion to be had on why it might be useful (or not) for TS to distance themselves from detransitioners - and to discuss the rationale that drives the distancing.
No disagreement on the facts, please. I would like to stipulate that detransitioners actually do get thrown under the bus from time to time.
Without slicing and dicing the population too finely, I see three categories of detransitioners.
1) The mistaken detransitioner. These are those who, by their own admission, should never have transitioned and publicly disavow any connection to the trans world. Charles Kane would be an example in this category. They may have thought they were TS, though they may have come to this realization only after transition.
2) The TS detransitioner. Tried and failed. May or may not try again. Failed perhaps from lack of preparation or opposition. Perhaps for financial reasons. Perhaps to self-sacrifice for a SO. Perhaps out of religious conflicts. Perhaps because they like the excitement of it all. Perhaps whatever ...
3) The TG detransitioner. Tried and failed. Alternatively, tried and didn't like it. May still identify as a gender queer, TG, CD, etc.
I will cheerfully admit to throwing the first and last under the bus. I do so even though my basic philosophy tends to be libertarian. (I.e., in American terms, do whatever the hell you want to as long as it doesn't blow my life up.) Unfortunately, failures of both types inflame anti-TS sentiments in several quarters. These are as diverse as certain religious groups, political groups, feminists of various types, segments of the medical community, and others. The utility in condemning these detransitioners and creating distance is to distinguish between these people versus those who have real medical needs (i.e., TS), therefore protecting our access to transition. Some people are distinctly uncomfortable with condemning any sort of detransition. Frankly, I am discomfited more by those who improperly impute moral motivations to those such as me, when we actually are speaking to different points.
The condemnation is pretty obvious to most people when it comes to the first category. Even those pleading compassion the most tend to cheerfully toss the Charles Kanes of the world under the bus. But those in the third category? The conflict over what appears to be morals based condemnation is a little more complicated here. I actually may have some personal issues with some scenarios in this category. I have no problem distinguishing those from the utility argument, however, and have no problem publicly decrying the failed transition from a policy and effects standpoint, whatever I may or may not do in private from a personal standpoint.
But pity the poor TS detransitioner! Literally. Because not only have they f****d up, they still have a problem to deal with. Often the exact same problem – transition. I do not see the need to distance myself from these. But the utility arguments are still there for condemning the failure, though they run in other directions. Specifically, that they argue for better and more transition support! I have no problem condemning screw-ups as such. Poor planning – when it IS poor planning – should be condemned. Lack of preparation should be condemned. Lying your way through a system designed to protect you when those protections would have headed off your issues should be condemned. Etc.
Just my take on the world. What's yours?