In my limited experience peoples GD or level of Transexualism is different, is it possible those that have it the strongest and are so sure are a little hard on those that have greater doubt, but have maybe gone through the system, passed the gatekeepers etc.
I can think of one person (not on here) that I have my doubts over, she has been through all the proper channels done the RLE and is soon to be having SRS. I can't speak for someones inner turmoil but I wouldn't be surprised if she detransitions later on and I could only pity her if that was the case. Surely not everyone that does it is like Charles Kane??
My fear is that some people have their own demons coupled with some level of Transgenderism. How likely is it that a therapist concludes it to be gender identity, it's so complex an issue. The only people I would condem are those that choose to poison the rest of us, admit you made a mistake or couldn't do it and disappear quietly.
I agree with Melissa's statement "The problem is a huge number of people on this forum have never done ANYTHING in public. How does someone who has never even cross dressed in daylight have any idea about a gender transition?" I think it's dangerous not to have that experience before proceeding, you may well have female identity and be totally TS but if when push comes to shove you can't hack the real world, what then?
I read these threads and wonder if I should even reply, I'm in transition and full of my own doubts, I question myself constantly, it can be a pretty shitty world out there and the future frightens me. I could do with some support sometimes, but it feels more like the opposite at times. I realise there must be a lot of deluded or bogus people pass through here, there is way too much suspicion on here what does it take to be believed? I honestly don't know what to think, I agree it's irresponsible to encourage someone, but it doesn't help to fill them with more doubts and confusion also. I hear often that being TS has an element of Self diagnosis, if thats the case is it any surprise when some diagnoses incorrectly?
What advise is good advise when you don't even know if that person is the real deal? Should we be so quick to judge when we don't actually know the facts?
So someone detransitioned, are you so quick to dimiss them when you have no idea what their story is? I don't see why it would harm me, Mr Kane shouldn't be taken serious by anyone and if there are mistakes and it makes therapists more careful, doesn't that protect all of us?
Those that detransition most likely did plan everything perfectly, had the money for the hormones and certain surgeries, one day they say tada i'm a girl and the real reality hits home. Those are the fools. But the ones in catagory 2 and 3, as Corinne says, too many shades of grey. If you transition and your not full of doubts and fear, well that can't be normal can it? But with that doubt and fear some will fall and some will realise they got it wrong.
Everyone knows Transition is a risk.