Tonight I told my wife I needed time to crossdress instead of sneaking around behind her back. Turns out she just assumed that I was crossdressing any time she was out of the house for more than 20 minutes, I told her my threshold was more like 2 hours. Anyway, nothing got resolved, no changes agreed to. I just want to be me without feeling like I'm deceiving her. However we were able to hug and make peace with each other so nobody would go to bed angry. Strangely, this is progress because I was able to tell her something about my crossdressing and we were able to recover from it quickly. Small steps.