Do you control your CDing or does your CDing control you?

[Frédérique]

Do you feel comfortable with your self when you can't CD for extended periods of time, or does the absence of CDing drive you do loose your mind? Does your need to CD serve a purpose? Or do you serve your CDing?

Maybe I once “served” my crossdressing, but I no longer do. I think this site cured me of that…

[ange_o]

I have been thinking about this a bit recently. Looking at the list above I'd say I'm a match for the first 5 items easily. With the amount I'm thinking about CDing lately and buying clothes to support it, yet without an opportunity to indulge it I'd definitely say it's controlling me.

[donnalee]

Actually, I pursue other interests while dressed (I dress close to 24/7). I'm retired, live alone and have taken pains that equipment to pursue them is close to hand; I get out about once a week, mostly medical appointments, but go in drab. Mostly this is due to a desire not to complicate my outside life more than I have to. I've lived in this area better than 40 years and am well known in the area. I also have a lousy memory for faces, so when someone calls my name, I may not recall theirs.

[Seana Summer]

, what are the signs that cross-dressing is controlling you?

So far I can say that Crossdressing dose not control me. It is one of my favorite past times, but it is one of several.

[Krisi]

I control my crossdressing, it does not control me.

[Tami Monroe]

I control my CDing, as I rarely do it during the summer months.

[Mia27]

I'd say i'd control it up to the point until i start dressing up. Once i start dressing up, i become all happy and crazy. I want to try on so MANY clothes. I want to take photos, and be as girly as possible! So i guess i'd say its a 50/50 control, in the end. Haha

[Kati F]

Like most other people I like to think I control the cross dresser lurking inside of me ...and I like to think that CDing doesn't control me but when I think about it, there really are some subtle ways that CDing does control me.

There are things that most us do (and don't do) in life that we only do for the dresser in us. Many things that men who don't CD would probably never do... and for some of us they become lifetime habits. Those little things like shaving my legs, not growing facial hair, keeping brows plucked and all those other girly things that so may of us do... I've even recently been on a diet that was mostly driven by the cross dresser me (it does feel good to be fitter).

[Miss Interpretation]

I would say I'm pretty in control of my CDing, but I also think my desire to dress and express the ultra-feminine part of myself is probably less than others on this forum.

I go through cycles, usually every 1-2 months, where I feel the need to dress. When this happens I'll dress usually just for a weekend. However, when I do, I usually go all out, including shaving my whole body, makeup...the whole nine yards. Then, by Monday, I return back to my regular self, only to continue again after a month or two.

I think this need to go full out is a "build up" of the desire to express this part of myself over time. I guess my metaphor for it is a pressure that builds up, eventually coming to a head and releasing itself. I don't think it's very healthy for me to ignore this aspect of myself for such long periods of time, so I've been experimenting with ways to express the feminine parts of myself without needing to go full CD mode.

[danielletorresani]

My CDing is definitely more in control of me than the other way around. That's why I see it as unhealthy for me, though I do enjoy the hell out of it.

[Davida Kay]

I'm striving for balance in life in general. I cannot live a connected loving life, if I am giving all my time to Davida. So for me, Davida gets as much time as I can give her while keeping male obligations that are healthy and important to a balanced, healthy life! Perfect? No. Plenty of times I blow things off to be Davida. But it is always a choice.

[amandagurl2014]

For me, it's controlled and balanced for the most part.

[Teresa]

Candice I posted a thread a while ago about being lazy or things changing. I've lost interest in wanting to do male things to prove something, CDing is meaning more to me so I guess it's taking over. The other problem I have is it was and still is sexual so I can't go too long before I'm climbing the walls !
I try not to let it take over so the best solution is to be able to combine it with my passion for painting, it certainly helps my brushwork ! but at the moment my wife has other ideas ! The house takes priority !

[deebra]

YES CDing controls me and it starts with the pink fog, I give in and usually push the limits further each time such as where I go and what I wear in public. I feel so good while doing it and after it's over.

[immike]

One of life's pleasures when you live by yourself&own the house is being able to dress when you like? One of my prime pleasures is preparing the coffee pot,then carefully put on my pantyhose,walk into the closet&pick out a short mini skirt&
slide into into it&pick out a soft,silky blouse&step into my black 4'' heels&put on my blonde wig&do my makeup(

[natcrys]

In my current situation I am able to pretty much plan my crossdressing-related activitities, such as my shopping, my socialising with other T*-friends, my photo/video-shoots, going to parties, etc. And it is this fact that actually gives me a lot of mental rest and that.. in turn.. makes it possible to control and guide it.. knowing that there will always be moment not too far in the future where I can dress up again!

And sure, in theory.. this also means I could go weeks (or even months) without dressing, but then I will start to get antsy and restless.

Fortunately, other activitities such as online-shopping, editing my pictures/videos, working on my blog and staying in touch with my T* friends helps a lot to bridge the actual crossdressing moments!

So to answer your question, I like to think that these days.. I control my crossdressing.


EDIT. I didn't see Confucious' list and I don't know how serious I should take this list or just with a little bit of humour.

While I guess most points in their current wording are open doors,... I do disagree with a few points.

1. You think about cross-dressing all the time.

How is that defined? As in the only thing? I think about crossdressing all the time... as in every day a few times.. , but I also do that about music, sports, video games and science.

2. When a good looking young woman walks by, you pay more attention to her clothes than the women.

I don't think this means crossdressing is controlling me. It means I can actually appreciate both the woman and her outfit.

3. You don't want to do any exercise than will make you look masculine.

For real? I also don't do heavy weights training, because that will make me slower with karate. Is karate controlling me as well? Or do I take care of my body in a way that fits with my life's activities.

And by this reasoning, one could say a CD is controlled by crossdressing for wanting to shave the legs and the facial hair?

4. You have lots of stuff; more shoes, bras, and lingerie than real women.

Define real women.

5. You are spending too much money on your cross-dressing.

If you're spending money that should be spent on food, rent, kids, education.. agreed.

6. You are sacrificing your male side to enhance your female side.
7. You are sacrificing your love for your family to enhance your female side.
8. You are sacrificing your career to enhance your female side.

How would these points work in an actual scenario? I guess.. if you already use the word "sacrifice"... it's not gonna be a good thing, eh?

9. You find that you have no hobbies or outside interests other than cross-dressing.

I know lots of people who have but just one passion. Are they controlled by that one thing?

10. You fail to understand how your cross-dressing could adversely affect your wife.

That's being called inconsiderate or being in a pink fog.

[chloe44c]

Yes there are times where it controls me to the point of exploding. At that point I know I need to take some deep breaths and get myself dressed.

I am getting better at anticipating these feelings and trying to avoid the explosion. I have been very lucky to have a friend that has helped me when she notices I am on edge and tells me I need to get dressed.

[Gretchen_To_Be]

Last year I successfully stopped from May-Sep and had a CD free Summer. This year I stopped in Apr and won 't resume until after Labor Day. How's that for control? I will admit that I think of it often, and can't wait to don my hose, heels and dresses in about 6 weeks!