Wow, I can identify with that.
Two of my adult children live at home. Both in their mid-30s, my son has yet to leave, my daughter has a child, a failed relationship, and came back home over a year ago. My son works the afternoon shift, and my daughter works the day shift. We care for our grandchild while she is gone. My other adult children live nearby and are likely to walk in to their old home at any time. I made a promise to my wife that I would not tell the children and the crossdressing would not come into the bedroom. Only my wife, therapist, and doctor know (and, of course, thousands of other crossdressers).
I don't know how you are going to handle this Doc, I don't know how to handle my own.
Best wishes
MsVal