I understand that many CDs have a DADat relationship with their wives in respect to their crossdressing. I came out to my wife about 8 months ago and our relationship has evolved more into an out of sight out of mind relationship.
I've been 100% honest with her in regard to my crossdressing. She understands and respects my need to crossdress and is generally supportive. She has bought me make up, clothes and shoes and we've gone shopping together many times.
I do wear panties 24/7 and once in a while I'll put on a bra / forms while she's home. Also, I have several women's sleep shirts and wear one most nights when going to sleep.
Where she has drawn the line is that she prefers not to see it. I respect this and do most of my dressing when she's not home. We have different days off from work so this leaves me plenty of time to be Jackie.
When I've gone out enfemme, I've gotten dressed while she was at work and she was asleep when when I got home.
Two weeks ago the two of us went to a drag show at a local gay bar. It was the fist time that I / we have gone. We discussed whether I should go enfemme. Since it was the first time going, we decided that I should go in DRA B mode and kind of check things out before deciding to go enfemme. The show was ok and there were about 10 girls out of about 75 people there. I'd have liked to have been dressed but I was ok not.
I did put on a little eye shadow, eye liner and mascara and dressed a little metrosexual but was wearing DRAB clothes.
I'm curious to hear from others who have an out of sight out of mind relationship with their wife's or SOs.