Results 1 to 14 of 14

Thread: Biggest step so far!

  1. #1
    Senior Member Suzanne F's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Location
    San Francisco Area
    Posts
    1,276

    Biggest step so far!

    I made my biggest step yet this week. On Sunday night I got ready and went to a local AA meeting for the first time as Suzanne. A few of my friends that know were there. I don't attend this meeting regularly but most people there know me as Brent. I walked in with my head held high! My friend saved me a seat and I sat down. I received some knowing looks from people that knew about me being trans but had never seen Suzanne. 3 different women who know me as Brent came up and asked my name. They were stunned when I told them. The earth did not stop and everything was fine. Since this isn't a regular meeting for me I did not think it was necessary for me to share and explain anything.

    The next evening was my regular meeting where everyone knows me. I got ready and headed over to coffee like I always do. The people at coffee were happy that I was going as me, Suzanne. We then went over to the meeting. Some people had heard about me from the preceding evening. I was greeted by one of the women with a big hug. One of my male friends was kind of mean when I went through the door. He said," I don't know what you think you are doing but good luck." Not in a good way. I shook it off and sat down in the back with 2 of my girlfriends who already knew about Suzanne. They dolted on me and I took a deep breathe. I had been waiting for this moment and it was finally here!

    The topic was fellowship and how our live get better. A few people shared and I decided it was time. I moved into an empty chair more in the middle of the room and raised my hand. The secretary called on me. Here was the moment! I am Suzanne and I am an alcoholic. There I said it. Like music I heard ,"Hello Suzanne!" I couldn't believe it. I said how much the people at this meeting meant to me and I hoped I would never lose them. I said I would always be doing the same things I had for the last 12 years as far as sponsoring people and loving members of AA. I said I had learned that love an tolerance is the code of AA and I hoped that would be true in this case. Then I said thank you. In a totally unexpected and really inappropriate manner a manly man said, " What should we call you from now on, Suzanne?" Without missing a beat I said when I look pretty call me Suzanne. Everyone laughed and the tension just melted from the room.
    I can't tell you how many people came up afterward to offer their support. It was overwhelming. Even the guy who had been rude at the door came up and apologized. I have received calls and texts from very unexpected sources thanking me for my courage and honesty. I am now free to be who I want at my home group of AA. What a blessing !
    Last edited by Suzanne F; 07-23-2014 at 02:13 PM.

  2. #2
    Gold Member Kaitlyn Michele's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2005
    Posts
    6,640
    What a blessing indeed!!! Way to go!!!!

    I know that took a lot of guts and i'm really happy that the experience was positive.

    Big time kudos to you!!!

  3. #3
    Member Brianna_H's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2014
    Location
    Sacramento, CA
    Posts
    145
    Bravo! That took so much courage. What a beautiful story.

    Don't know if you happen to be a Stephen King fan, but his recent novel Doctor Sleep is sort of a love letter to AA. The main character also has a big revelation he is nervous about sharing with his group. It's a beautiful plotline in a strong novel overall.

    Congratulations on overcoming the sarcasm and being yourself. You give me hope.
    *******
    I'm through accepting limits
    'Cause someone says they're so
    Some things I cannot change
    But 'til I try, I'll never know!
    - Defying Gravity from Wicked

  4. #4
    Untitled
    Join Date
    Apr 2006
    Location
    Somewhere near the "Umber" but not "Ull"
    Posts
    7,061
    Sometimes we are surprised by the response from those who we expect to be against us. Glad all went well and that there are many more steps along the way.
    Listen carefully to what is said, quite often you can hear what is not being said

    The joy of correcting a mistake can bring pain to another

  5. #5
    Aspiring Member Christen's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2014
    Location
    South Australia
    Posts
    737
    So pleased for you!

    Christen x
    “Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing
    and rightdoing there is a field.
    I'll meet you there.” - Rumi.

  6. #6
    Living MY Life Rachel Smith's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Location
    Roanoke VA
    Posts
    798
    Way to go Suzanne!!! Your story brought back many fond memories for me when I came out to family and friends. You are now free from one more of your prisons.
    My parents should have known something wasn't quite right when I kept putting Kens' head on Barbies' body Rachel Smith May 2017

    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC][SIZE="3"]Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want. Dan Stanford[/SIZE][/SIZE]

    I used to feel like one in a million now with this forum I feel like one OF a million

    “We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” ― Joseph Campbell

  7. #7
    Gold Member
    Join Date
    Dec 2008
    Posts
    6,896
    I am happy for you Suzanne! It was a tough step but I will bet your recovery will feel more complete when you are approaching it as your real self. Good luck!

  8. #8
    Member jeri1973's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2006
    Posts
    280
    That is so great. I'm sure you will continue to get more comfortable going out as your true self. Enjoy every minute of it.
    Jeri

  9. #9
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Apr 2008
    Location
    hillsboro oregon
    Posts
    1,283
    Suzanne
    way to go, this may make your life easier and help your journey

  10. #10
    Valley Girl Michelle789's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2013
    Location
    Los Angeles
    Posts
    1,055
    Suzanne,

    I am really happy that you are getting to be yourself at your AA meetings. Isn't that freeing? I am hoping to come out soon at my home group. I've been scared to do so, but I think I'm ready to do so. You are really an inspiration Suzanne, and I am really proud of you
    I've finally mastered the art of making salads. My favorite is a delicious Mediterranean salad.

  11. #11
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2010
    Location
    A bit south of the 49th!
    Posts
    23,676
    That's a huge step, Suzzanne. Huge step and a humbling moment for that rude guy.
    Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.

    Eleanor Roosevelt

  12. #12
    Member traci_k's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2013
    Location
    Hammond, Indiana
    Posts
    443
    Suzanne - So very happy for you. Great Story - thank you for sharing.

    Hugs,
    Traci Melissa Knight


    To thine own self be true
    When the student is ready, the teacher will appear

  13. #13
    Senior Member Suzanne F's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Location
    San Francisco Area
    Posts
    1,276
    Last night I went to my regular Wednesday open meeting with my wife and son. We usually go to the meeting and then to dinner. There I was in a skirt with my family. I couldn't have dreamed that was possible a year and a half ago. There were a few awkward moments with a few of the guys. However most people were fine with it. To top it off, my wife and I had a calm discussion about hormones later that night. I think she has come to terms with me taking them next year.
    Suzanne

  14. #14
    Living MY Life Rachel Smith's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Location
    Roanoke VA
    Posts
    798
    Little steps become milestones.
    My parents should have known something wasn't quite right when I kept putting Kens' head on Barbies' body Rachel Smith May 2017

    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC][SIZE="3"]Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want. Dan Stanford[/SIZE][/SIZE]

    I used to feel like one in a million now with this forum I feel like one OF a million

    “We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” ― Joseph Campbell

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  


Check out these other hot web properties:
Catholic Personals | Jewish Personals | Millionaire Personals | Unsigned Artists | Crossdressing Relationship
BBW Personals | Latino Personals | Black Personals | Crossdresser Chat | Crossdressing QA
Biker Personals | CD Relationship | Crossdressing Dating | FTM Relationship | Dating | TG Relationship


The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs.
We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.

Browse Crossdressers By State