Ha, well, so my wife now knows. It went rather well. She was very supportive and even a bit excited about it I had not intended to tell her quite yet, but I slipped up and left part of a pair of nylons out. She was really puzzled by them and told me (before I said anything) "you know, if you like to wear stockings that's okay with me." Amazing woman
After some hemming and hawing I fessed up and we talked some more about it. She even wanted to buy me some nicer stockings! She's very familiar with the LBGT movement, but wanted to know more about CDers in general, so I provided a few links to recommended sites as well as this one.
I just want to thank everyone in this forum. It's been a great support and resource for me