Hey there - I was reading this thread and thought maybe you would like a GG's perspective but this comment above from Stephanie47 pretty much hits the nail on the head. My husband only recently came out to me (May 2014) and I can tell you that yes just because one day we are good with it doesn't mean that the next will be the same. It really fluctuates- I know that isn't fair, but it's the reality of it. I do WANT to be ok all the time with the CDing but to be honest sometimes it feels like a slap in the face. The comment above about the financial aspect is one example - I myself am a jeans and t-shirt kind of gal so seeing the money spent on this is hard. We are working on that but it is still a personal issue I have. He does have a few items in the closet and for the most part I don't mind but when it is front and center (on the edge of my stuff as to be hidden in plain sight from our kids) and I might be having a bad day or off with the whole CD thing it is kind of a hit to see staring back at me.
I would suggest talking about the fact of emotions fluctuating up front so you both know that it could happen and you're both ready for it. And not that I don't think that it is a slid back on our level of acceptance but more of a normal adjustment to our everyday emotions that tend to shift. I do think her offering is an olive branch of sorts but sometimes we love you all so much we may give a little more than we are ready for so don't be angry at us for shifting on our stance every now and again. We are trying but it's not always easy. Please remember that you have had a lifetime of trying to figure out and understand all of this and for most of it struggled with it and once you lay it out on the table for us we deserve time to soak it all in as well - it isn't gonna happen overnight - even thought we wish it would too. I so much wish that we were at a 'norm' so I knew what to expect everyday but he still doesn't know what is 'the norm' for him so it's a waiting game for us all I guess.
On a side note - I want to applaud many of you that can 'see' it from a GG's perspective. Sometimes I wonder if you even slow down enough to think of it sometimes. Always remember to use a little common courtesy - it goes a long ways ( and I will try to do the same!)
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