Weird or Not? CDs, GGs, GMs

[LelaK]

CDs, were you already "weird" aside from crossdressing?
GGs & GMs, were you "weird" in any way?
Does crossdressing seem weird? Or does not crossdressing seem weird? And does weird seem appealing or unappealing?
How much weirdness can you stand?

Before adulthood, I never thought I was weird or odd, but when I was about 28 I learned that my Sun sign is considered eccentric or weird. And when I thought about it then, it did seem that at least since I got out of high school that I had a lot of odd tendencies. In HS I had been too shy to ask any girls out or anything, but that was common in my rural hometown. Oh yes, something odd from my teen or preteen years was that I did art and grew flowers. (And I sometimes crossdressed in private.)

A few years after HS I started investigating odd things, like socialism, anarchism, alternative science, vegetarian diet, alternative health, astrology, spiritualism, celibacy etc. I never considered crossdressing weird, but most people seem to.

Does anyone know what astrological sign/s is/are said to make people weird? (i.e. just people who have signs)

[SO1Adam12]

I have been called "so normal" by so many people that I wonder if I'm boring!!! The truth is, if my close friends and family knew about my SO's CDing, they would look at me like I had grown another head for staying with him. I can't explain it and trying is just too exhausting.

My SO, on the other hand, leaves many scratching their heads....not that they have the slightest hint of his CDing, it's everything else about him. Maybe that's a result of his CDing or maybe his CDing is a result of his quirks. Once again, trying to figure it out if the chicken or the egg came first is also too exhausting!

So yes, he's weird, but he's weird about everything.

[SuzanneS]

"weird" is just about as common as being "normal", isn't it? Who decides what is weird and what is normal, and who says they are correct in the way that they think?

It's only "weird" if you let everyone else think that it is.....

I know....easier said than done...

Suzanne

[abby054]

That is how I received my name, "Abby": according to my wife, I am "Abby-Normal". I am a Prince of Geeks and all-around weird one.

[Brenda456]

People think I am "normal." I used to think I was "normal." Now I know there is no such thing.

[Jorja]

I am not strange or odd, that is a terrible rumor, started by those who fail to understand, appreciate, or comprehend the unique and interesting aspects and contradictions of my personality and character.

[LelaK]

Speaking of "Normal", Chris Crocker had interesting things to say about it while "dressed" at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g0VRkCF2a80

Did any of you see that before? Neato.

[Jenniferathome]

...Does crossdressing seem weird? ...(i.e. just people who have signs)

Of course it seems weird! We can't even explain it to ourselves. Why should we think others won't find it weird or be offended that they do?

[ReineD]

My SO has always been on the fringe. He was academically gifted as a child, and this set him apart. He also had difficulties socially as a teenager which resulted in an inability to ask girls out, like you. He was political in college, but again in unconventional ways. He has been the odd one out all his life, and this is why being a CDer never really bothered him. It was just another thing. I think he takes a great deal of pride in being outside of the box. lol

I think I'm normal, but people with traditional values think I'm odd. I'm rather liberal. I have both an artistic side that is full of passion, and a cold analytical side. Both these states live side by side and produce some rather unconventional internal reactions to people and events. I also tend to think outside of the box so I guess my SO and I are well suited to one another.

But overall I think that my SO and I are both well within the "normal" range. The range is wide indeed and I think that only a small percentage of people fit within the rather narrow conventional confines of the stereotypical "normal", whatever that is.

[DebbieL]

Our very nature is to challenge and question fundamental truths that most people consider axiomatic. Most people believe that their sexual identity should be defined by the few cubic inches between their legs. If they have boy parts, then they are boys who will become men and will do the things that men do because that's what men do. They will fight as boys, fight as men, and even go to war. Many will die and will do so while blindly following orders, because that's whan men do. If they have girl parts, they are girls. They will be discouraged from fighting, they will be trained to become mothers, to cooperate with other mothers, to give birth to children, to submit to the men who have survived the wars. They will learn to behave as the survivors want them to behave. In some cultures, wars are so common that men are scarce and women must share their men with other women, whether other wives, mistresses, or prostitutes, and each woman has her own way of getting what she needs from the men she serves. She will look, act, dress, and behave in the manner which provides for her needs.

But the transgender, the cross-dresser, takes NOTHING for granted. They question everything. Whether it's Joan D'Arc, or Queen Elizabeth I, or Marie Antoinette, transgender women have saught and gained power, and acheived greatness as women. Transgender and homosexual men have often produced great art, feats of engineering, and played a decisive role in wars without ever carrying a weapon. Whether Merlin, the Michelangelo, or Alan Turing, the wizard, the artist, and the engineer have challenged the established knowledge and introduced extraordinary innovation. Many of the greatest changers of history chose NOT to accept the fame and recognition they had earned, so that they could live their private lives as they chose.

History is filled with Wierdos who questioned the very nature of reality, Jesus Christ, Francis of Assissi, Budhha, Confucious, Lao Tsu, the Wright Brothers, Henry Ford, Mercedes, Honda, Edsel Ford, Einstein, Oppenheimer, Steve Jobs, Steve Wozniak, Bill Gates, Paul Allen, Oprah Winfrey, Martin Luther, Moses, Aristotle, Ben Franklin, John & Abigail Adams, Thomas Jefferson, Mahatma Ghandi, Martin Luther King Jr, John F Kennedy, and so on. Look at any great accomplisment of civilization anywhere in the world and you will see the work of men and women unnamed and unknown whose ability to question the status quo, the "truths" which were established by those who wished to protect the status quo. Whether it's flight, or the Internet, you will find among the innovators and instigators the "wierdos" who often struggled to challenge the established order by bringing illumination, who challenged the power of absolute rulers, advocating independent thought and government by consent of the governed. Many were given insights and made great discoveries and yet were forced to recant at risk of being condemned for heresay or treason.

I'm proud to be among those thousands of "Wierdos" who have helped to change the world while remaining anonymous rather than give up the freedom to be who I am. I'm not alone.

[Anna H]

I guess it could be said that I am. At least, I've heard it
before...lol!

We moved a lot when I was growing up so I never had time
to fit in. And being the new little thang on the block, I was
always at the bottom of any pecking orders.

I'd get into trouble trying to fit in. Trying to please everyone
and be liked. I'm lucky I didn't end in in a bad place...or dead.
But, my little secret kept me from going too far because I knew
that one day, everything would be OK and I'd be able to just be
myself....if i could just last until then....lol!

I didn't live anything even remotely considered a normal life.
There have been dozens of times that I'd go stick my thumb
out and catch a ride to some major city with not a cent to my
name.

Always, the idea was to make a brand new start and settle into
discovering exactly what this "condition" I have meant. Far away
from family or anyone I may bring embarrassment to.

But then, I'm right back where I started. At the bottom of the
pecking order, and back into trouble once again.
(minor trouble....i'm too scared to be much of real bad-ass...lol!)

So...like the bottle says. Rinse-Repeat.

Thank God my wife came along. I wondered many times if she herself
is normal to want anything to do with an odd one like myself.
But, I'd say it's all finally worked out. It sure took awhile, though!

[sarahcsc]

My friends didn't think I was weird, but then again, I hung out with a group of people who everybody else considered weird. My family also said I was weird, in fact, they were the ones who were most aware of my demeanor and kept telling me "not to be weird" or "start acting normal". Looking back now, I thought I was just being myself and I suspect I'll always be weird to somebody no matter what I did or didn't do. Despite what everybody was saying to me, I felt like they were the weird ones and not me, and I still do! Lol.

I like being weird, I like the whole idea of weirdness because it is so exciting! I mean... Sure being normal means having a simpler and possibly happier life (no guarantees) but why be happy when you can be weird and interesting!? Some people hate weirdos out of their ignorance and fear, I love weirdos because they are so interesting! It's boring to hear a normal person speak, but it's thrilling when a person speaks weirdly!

Anyways, I digress. My point is... I'm weird to somebody out there and so is everybody is weird to me. But that's exactly how I like the world to be.

Love,
Sarah

[noeleena]

Hi,

lets face it i was going to be weird long before i was born , different if you must , for my self weird means i dont have to prove im sane or normal in fact being different opens more doors to people and more ? s. are asked,

just means more people get to know me and why im different , im not talking a few 100 i mean a few Million , doors opened to speak with so many people had i been normal life would have been so boring .

oppitunitys were given to myself, you know you can stay at home and do what, live life and not do much or go places, just live in one place , no not this family Mom and i moved a lot and Jos and i moved a lot more , worked in different places out of NZ met more people and all round the south isl of New Zealand .

My life may be weird it sure was and is not boring , thats for sure,

Being weird what does that really mean to me . to be born different intersexed both male / female not sure how to answer this part so ill try.....

To see life with different eye,s not like a male yet being were a male is and seeing it unfold before you, plus you are percived as a male yet your not , did i understand how a male does ,

No because i could not relate to or with males i looked on just was not a part of thier world , as for work oh yes very much so because i had to work under them , talk thier langauge as in learned in some respects yes so i could hold a some what reasonable converstion with male about some parts of life as i saw it, other than that i was a reject and felt like one ,

From my femaleness i was not accepted as i should have been yes i was by a few women though for most some would have picked up details about my self that would have said female though really for most no.

this i belive was because of my facial features so i was tarred and feathered as male ,

So weird i was born and weird i live .and weird i,ll die, mind you it can be fun most of the time though i get my down days like any female does,

Live -lieben ist das Leben zu leben

To love live is to Live life,

To the full wether we are weird or not just enjoy the Day .

...noeleena...

[typhoidmary]

I've been perceived as weird and different since I was a kid, what with having such massive social anxiety which has always been an obstacle for me. I used to hate it and wish I was just normal like everyone else but I guess I learned to work around it, if nothing else it's kind of comforting that no one really expects me to be "normal" based on how I look, it makes it easier to just be myself.

[Laura J]

I'm certainly the weird one. Weird things come easier to me in conversation than normal things.

[Vickie_CDTV]

Oh yes, I was always considered to be a "weirdo" and was a bit of an outcast growing up. I'd say I was socially awkward too, but "socially awkward" would be an understatement. People always thought there was "something wrong with me" without ever having known about my TVism.

As an adult, doctors would later confirm, yes, there were quite a few things wrong with me.

[KimberlyJean]

I must be the weird one on this forum, I have been completely normal and successful my entire life. I think my crossdressing is life's way of keeping things in perspective for me.

[Marcelle]

Hi Lela,

Well anything is going to seem weird when you don't conform to one person's or a group of person's perception of what "normal" is. For me, Isha is a normal part of who I am and so I don't consider her weird. If someone wants to look at her and say "freak, weirdo" that is their baggage not mine. End state for me . . . we are no more weird than any other person on the face of the planet. I had a friend tell me "dressing as a girl seems weird" (he was not being mean just stating a fact). I then replied "Not dressing as a girl seems weird to me". He said "point taken" and we continued enjoying our beers.

Hugs

Isha

[Katey888]

Yes - I think so... a bit wacky...

Is this weird? For most folks - yes - of course... not majority 'normal' so must be...

Is weird appealing? Yes - for me I like things and people that are a little 'off-centred'... I think generally it leads to more interesting perspectives on life... but how much can I stand? Well, I need a break and immersing in normality at least once a week, just so I don't misbehave too much...

Anything to do with star signs..? Not in the least... unless anyone's buying free drinks for Capricorns and then 'yup' - I'm bought in to that aspect...

Katey x

[Kris Avery]

Hi Lela,

Well anything is going to seem weird when you don't conform to one person's or a group of person's perception of what "normal" is. For me, Isha is a normal part of who I am and so I don't consider her weird. If someone wants to look at her and say "freak, weirdo" that is their baggage not mine. End state for me . . . we are no more weird than any other person on the face of the planet. I had a friend tell me "dressing as a girl seems weird" (he was not being mean just stating a fact). I then replied "Not dressing as a girl seems weird to me". He said "point taken" and we continued enjoying our beers.

Hugs

Isha

Awesome quote. Isha

Yes, I'm 100% weird to society...right now... so (your point)?

In 100 years will it be? We will all be wearing grey spandex body suits and have no hair right? (yay)

[Krististeph]

Yes i was weird. But quite the opposite of any meta-physics, spirituality, or new age- quite geek-ish, a result of being raised by much older parents with serious business and scientific training, and siblings who supported this as well. I got on much better with my teachers than my peers. Of course this had benefits, the girls I dated were quite mature for their age, and being able to converse intelligently and maturely with their parents kind of gave me the 'keys to the castle' so to speak (and quite often their Dad's car or truck to take their daughters out with, not a bad deal).

In the army, I suffered the dual curse of being small in size, and relatively smart, meaning i didn't just think about beer and babes. When I was not being accused of being gay, I was being ostracized for not being stupid like everyone else.

Crossdressing was never that weird to me, I saw it as partly a hold over from the days of youth- playing dress-up with girls, who aside from having girly-germs(tm), were wonderful to play with, at least until they got old enough to start being catty to each other.

And crossdressing is about appreciation and celebration of things female, and damn if i wasn't attracted to females. I had guy friends, but a lot of that was simply because guys tended to hang together as the girls were supposed to be sexual objects and only used for such or seen in that light... lord forbid they be friends.

My wife of a quarter century was a lot like me- except for the crossdressing- we are best friends as well as spouses- an we make a hell of a team when we put our heads together.

[CynthiaD]

I've always been considered weird. I do a lot of weird things, but crossdressing isn't one of them. As I said before, crossdressing is not weird. Being transgendered is not weird. Living your whole life pretending to be something you're not? That's weird.

[Eringirl]

Through the lenses I view the world (albeit with somewhat of a rose tint), everyone has their idiosyncrasies and uniqueness, so to some extent, everyone is "weird" to someone. So is "weird" the new "normal"?

Just my thoughts. Now back to your regularly scheduled discussion....

[Jonithan]

I was born and raised weird. I'm left handed in a right handed world. I eat and write with my left. Cut with scissors with my right. Put on pants and skirts right leg first. Step into the shower left foot first...

... I'm not just weird, I'm a freak

joni (freak)

[Adriana Moretti]

In high school they had awards...you know like most popular, class clown....etc...I won most unique...i even won it the year after i graduated LOL...I like that word better than weird...eccentric is another good one.....i also love the phrase "Stay Weird" though.....nothing wrong with being a bit weird normal is boring anyway