When you look at your life and how you dress in male and female clothes day to day - do you think you have the balance right? Have to reached a point where life does not get in the way of dressing or cause issues and similarly your dressing has little/no impact on your daily life. Be it home, work, social etc?
When I read on here most people seem to see two distinct people in themselves. Their male and female sides/versions/whatever you wish to call it. You will see frequent references to lets say "Amy" coming out or being allowed to express herself when they are alone in their home for example. Or that Amy bought a new dress (but not Shaun). A lot of people who dress up as female (to the point of often wanting to pass as female) seem to become someone else - like the hulk but not as green. Are they taking off their male mask or putting on a female one rather than expressing a combined view of who they are?
For me it is different. I see my male and females like sides like a coin, they form part of the whole coin and one cannot exist without the other.Thus there is no separate person, just me. "Klaire" does not exist as such, I just recognise the female aspects/desires of my personality and bring them into myself so they form a whole with my male aspects. Thus my personality shows male and female traits and offers me say the calm, polite, friendly nature of a woman as well as the teeth of a dog when it comes to strong negotiating you would expect in a man - along with the ability to flip from one to the other as needs. I have a wife & 11 year old daughter who know I wear female clothes. I am able to and do wear female clothes both at home and at work without issues (but I never wear skirt, dresses or make-up but I can wear anything else). I am able to wear female clothes in public, including shoulder bags. But I do not present as female, just a male with a feminine look - similar to a few homosexual men I know who also have this air and look too them.
Last weekend I went to too car boot sales with my daughter, spent over 2 hours at each and I was in female jeans, trainers, t-shirts, jumpers with a large blue suede shopper bag and my Guess purse. No issues at all, daughter was happy as this is normal for dad, the people we dealt with had no issues with me. I speak like a man (i.e it's all "hi mate / cheers pal" etc), yet have feminine overtones in my presence. But everyone treats me and speaks to me as a man which is what I want. 3 weeks ago all three of us went clothes shopping for our daughter, whilst in the women's section of Primark my wife asked me if there was anything I wanted. Had I asked for the red collared blouse that caught my eye she would have let me buy it but in truth I did not need it so said no on that occasion. But the offer was there from her.
When I look at my dressing, my day-to-day life I think I have found my balance. I can (and do) wear female clothes daily. I am not trying to walk two paths because I see only one person in me. Yes there are days or places I need to tone it down (going to Church for example). But normally I know what I can and cannot do so balance exists. My wardrobe is 85% female clothes and 100% female shoes/boots. That to me is a success. I know my perspective on dressing
is fairly unusual but it works for me.
What about you? Have you found the balance that works for you or do you think it's possible at this time (and if so why?)