Do you believe in who you are?

[Kate Simmons]

Do you believe in who you are as a person? How does CDing fit into that? I've spent my entire life becoming who I am now, so of course I believe in who I am as a person. How does CDing fit into that for myself? It's a nice to have but not necessary. Am I good at it? Pretty much but it's not really necessary in order for me to be myself. I've just spent the last 5 years or so becoming comfortable with myself as a guy. It wasn't always that way and I used to be conflicted. Now at a mellow age I feel it's all good and I no longer have the urgency to pursue being a woman, just myself. I'm in a good position and retired and my main purpose these days is to help my family and others if at all possible to become themselves as well. Not an easy accomplishment in this day and age of sometimes chaotic life. I enjoy the CDing but believing in who I am seems to be the more important thing. How do you all feel about that?

[kimdl93]

I would like to comment about this day and age first. It may seem chaotic, but I invite the curious to look back at the world of their parents, grand parents or beyond. Walk through a cemetery and see how many young lives ended in infancy and childhood. When the water we drank could kills us, when industrial and farm accidents, even shaving cuts and respiratory infections could prove fatal. Life is indeed chaotic, but so it has always been.

As foe believing in myself....it remains a work in progress. I'm pleased to have moved past denial, through resigned acceptance to a place of some happiness with acknowledging who I am as a TG person.

[Beverley Sims]

Kate,
I don't think a great deal about who I am I am too busy looking around the next corner to see what is new.

Kim,
I stood in a cemetery in Berchtesgaden Christmas eve 2000 and reflected on those that had died at a young age.

In Europe people visit graves on Christmas eve. A very moving event and it gave me time for thought.

I believe I do alright!

[Teresa]

Kate I haven't managed to get to that point, still too much conflict which I hope would start to pass !
Decided to cash a pension early to give more time to the family but we have very little control who our kids choose to marry and have had heartache for unexpected reasons !
Most people appear to carry baggage and don't always think who they're hurting through it !
I've really only come to terms with my CDing since joining the forum so I was hoping to get the time to enjoy it more, now I realise it's for life !
With children and now granchildren chaos still rules !!

BEV,
I've just read your reply and remember drinking some very expensive coffee looking up at the Eagles Nest !

The most moving moment I had was standing in the Enlish war graves and looking up at the abbey at Montecasino thinking all these men died to get up that hill ! The reconstruction of the abbey is amazing !

[Katey888]

Kate,

I believe time pretty much mellows some good things in life... single malts... ports... good vintages... and people sometimes...

If you've reached a point at which you're comfortable with who you are and how you feel about that, I'd suggest you're probably in the minority as most people seem to be striving for more and more of that western, materialistic chaos...

If you have found a state of harmony and balance and retain good health on top of that, don't shout too loud about it and tempt fate, but stay cool and enjoy it - that would be my take...

Katey x

[suchacutie]

Kate, I thought I believed in myself just fine....until the day we discovered Tina.

Then I REALLY believed in myself because identifying the femme side of me suddenly made it all make sense! There were always so many, "why am I like that", or "why did I do that when I was young" that I just thought I was a complicated person. Tina just makes so much sense!!!

[Talisker]

As I see it crossdressing is just another act and role to play in life. Sometimes I play dad, sometimes I play project manager, sometimes i play mechanic, sometimes I play a woman.......
Fun to switch roles every so often to keep it interesting. I don't want to be stuck in a single one of them.

[candykowal]

I am comfortable with myself!!!!...just not my situation, as it stands today.
Changing the way I am currently living is something I would like to do, getting there is the challange.
"Rocking the boat" so to speak, may cause unknown consequences....having to deal with that is something I know I will have to do ...just not right away.

[Angie G]

I'm physically him mentally her I believe in who I am in the moment I am very happy with both parts of my life be it him or her.
Angie

[Maria Blackwood]

I dress therefore I am.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Kate, If you can't believe in yourself than ho can you believe .

[CynthiaD]

Yes, I believe in myself. I'm proud of who I am, and I'm proud to be transgendered. Those of you who remember some of my other posts should have no doubt about this.