I think I can safely say that most, if not all of us, would like to have acceptance from our wives, SO's, and society in general. There have been lots and lots of threads about either the wife not knowing, the wife supporting, or the wife not accepting. I don't mean to offend anyone, including those on the other side of the aisle, but has anyone ever wondered about the following hypothetical scenario:
*One day as you're taking your suit off the hanger, you notice a long black/brown/blonde hair (the same color as your wife/SO) that's seems like it got caught in the jacket's hanging loop. You don't think much of it.
*On another day, you pull out that freshly laundered shirt only to discover that it's not as fresh as it should be. It seems like it's been worn!
*You're not feeling well at work, so you decide to come home early and surprise her. You open up the door and see what appears to be a man running up the steps to your bedroom. Two things race through your mind: 1) is my wife/SO having an affair? 2) am I being robbed?
Your heart is palpitating! You call out her name. She answers that everything is all right, just wait outside. But you need to make sure, so you open the door and catch her feverishly trying to change out of your clothes!
Now here comes the hypothetical conversation:
YOU: "Honey, what the hell are you doing?"
HER: "Er, uh, hi, dear. I was just trying on some of your clothes for the Halloween party we're having at the school."
YOU: "But Halloween was three months ago!"
HER: "Yeah, but, er, this is for next Halloween!"
YOU: "Ya know, I've noticed recently that some of my dress shirts seem to have been worn, my Brut deoderant has been used up alot sooner that it should have been....and how come you stopped shaving your legs and your arm pits? What's going on?"
HER: (Breaking down sobbing) "Honey, we have to talk."
She then confesses that since she was a little girl, all she's ever wanted was to be a boy. She's a CD, TG, FTM, etc., etc., etc.
YOU: "Are you gay? Are you a lesbian?"
HER: "No, of course not!....except maybe when I'm dressed en mano...then I might be attracted to women...but only when I'm dressed."
YOU: "And you knew this before we met?"
HER: "I've known it for as long as I can remember. I always wanted to be a defensive tackle for the Green Bay Packers and play in a mud bowl."
YOU: "A mud bowl?"
HER: "Yeah, John Madden always says that those defensive linemen who get their uniforms dirty are 'real men.'"!
You are stunned. The woman you married (or have been living with) suddenly reveals her desire to dress or be identified as a man.
What do you do?
a) Support her. Offer her a Corona, break open a 6 pack of Bud, dress her in your stuff, take her to a bar and try to pick up some women.
b) Freak out. Take a long solo drive and think about how your life has been turned upside down.
c) Offer her to trade your male clothes for her femme clothes and give each other lessons in style?
d) other answer...
Just wondering....
Jacqui