I have read comments by some members that many Cders are somewhere on the road to transition !!
I have had these thoughts twice in my life, the first was way back at about 9-10 years old when I was already a fully functioning male .
Not long after entering an all boys secondary school I found I was attracting an audiece when I exited the showers, the penny soon dropped that I was the only one in that year to have pubic hair ! Not long after during a biology lesson we were going through male and female differences and the reproductive cycle, reading through the text in the biology book it said that sexual development normally occurred in females before males ! To top it all at the end of the lesson our biology master produced from a drawer a scalpel and asked us to gather round he then announced, " A sex change in six easy cuts !!
and pointed to the text book with the scalpel where you would cut !! At the end of it most shuffled away not speaking but I was the last to leave and so asked him why would anyone want to do that ? He just replied that some may need to know that in the future ! ( I wonder if Mr. Watkins ever became Miss Watkins ). It had never occured to me that a man would want or need to become a woman ! The thought of developing breasts and turning into a woman took a long time to shake off, but all that happened was my sexual CDing just got stronger !
The second time I had the thoughts was when I came out to my wife some twenty years ago. A television drama about a CDer coming out tipped the balance for me ! I managed to get as far as saying I have something to tell you, when I broke down in tears, my wife sat on my knee and hugged me while I sobbed my heart out ! It all went down hill after that my wife accepted it but soon went into DADT the feeling of rejection pushed me to the point of suicide ! Some therapy and Prozac pulled me through it but at that point I thought instead of it all going round my head I should write my thoughts down .
Everytime I read it I convinced myself that I was affected more by a female side than a male , not only that but I wanted sex dressed but with women ! Part of me was a lesbian female ( * ) !
At this time there was far more media coverage of the whole subject of gender so trying to think logically did I want to be a woman ? I stood to lose a wife and mother of my children, my children, my business, my home and the rest of my family !
I risked becoming a semi functioning male or a semi functioning female and face the possibilty of not having a female partner and perhaps having to accept a male partner ( which I have no interest in !). To me it would be like stepping into no-man's-land !
Twenty years on again and the forum has enabled me to get things more in perspective , I should have joined sooner if I'd known an online forum could have been so helpful ! I'm more along the road of acceptance but far from being fully out ! Yes there are still good days and bad days but as many keep saying try and keep talking !
( * ) I had a couple of PMs with Reine, which I'm very grateful for and she suggested that I had the Autogynerphilia syndrome !
I checked it out and initially thought it was wrong because it only referred to Tss, reading on the next section described Transvestic Autogynerphilia which started to tick the boxes for me . It simply means, as I understand it that I crossdress because I love myself as a woman ! Other members may have this syndrome, so worth checking it out !
These are only my thoughts on Transition, I think the people that have done it are very brave and deserve every happiness !
Some still do it in their sixties to finally achieve what they always felt was right and finally get mind and body as one !
Personally I feel it is too late but I could be the one still making the mistake, I shall never know !!