These questions were poised by a reporter to a friend being interviewed.
1. When did you know you were not the sex you were born?
2. How do you define your sexual orientation?
3. Share some stories of issues you had with your personal image, your experience of being in the “wrong” body.
4. Describe three examples of interactions you had with your peers related to your gender identity.
5. How did or does your family accept you?
6. Do you want surgery? If so, which ones?
7. When did you start your transition? What choices are you making: personal appearance, hormones, surgery?
8. What level of change do you desire (or can you afford)? Full-time, part-time, body change . . .
9. If applicable, have you had any issues with divorce, custody of children? If so, explain.
10. If applicable, what were your children’s reactions?
11. What resources have you found the most useful?
Here are my responses.
1. When I was nine I asked my mother when was I going to become a girl, I cried when I was told never, you are a boy. I did not want to be a man Like my father but to be a woman like my mother. I had always thought boys and girls were the same until they changed in to adults.
2. I think of myself as a lesbian who has a penis and did not want one, it never felt right to me.
3. At about 9 1/2 I started to grow tall, grew pubic hair and my breast started to bud, by 12 I was 6 foot tall with "B" cup breasts and no balls. So at 13 I was placed on testosterone to force male puberty, no one ever asked me what I thought and my body was changed forever male.
Growing up I felt defective, never quite fitting in and always hiding by breasts, back in 1967 tried to enlist in the Navy but was rejected and when I was drafted and the Army sent me home saying they would only take me in time of national emergency, this all contributed to a life long feeling I was defective.
But not knowing of any other possible choice, I adapted to what society had determined how I should be.
4. I came out to my weekend coffee group at the local Mac D's, and they were surprised all right but were also very accepting. In the past there is one fellow that comes in and if seeing me will turn around leave, this morning he came over sat down with us and chatted for 25 minutes as if I were someone new to the group, finally one of the others asked him why he sit down with me there, the look on his face was priceless, he just got up and left, it certainly made my weekend. Passing for 25 minutes while talking to someone that doesn't like you tells me I am making good progress on my transition. (P.S. He later came back and has been supportive.)
At work when I came out I talked to each person one on one, all those who ask questions whether they were accepting or not have all treated me fairly.
All those who did not ask any questions and said they didn't care what I did are now just pretending I don't exist.
Went to a 4th of July party were only the hosts knew I was Tranz, with about 15 couples no one seemed to notice, at one point in the conversation one of the gals called me a "lucky Bitch".
I look like a linebacker in drag but I have a natural higher pitched voice combined with a feminine personality once I interact with them I most often taken for a woman.
5. My entire family is supportive, my mother even gave me my new name.
6. Surgery Yes, SRS, I have a surgery date for next year, I am having facial surgery in Nov.
7. Everyone defines their transition differently, I use the date I started living and working full time as a woman, 8 months this Oct.
8. In for a penny in for a pound.
9. As a late life transitioner most family and spouse problems were a non issue for me.
10. My children's reaction was one of support and that is all I can ask for.
11. The first was online forums so you would know there were others like you.
To seek out local support groups, and then proper medical and mental care providers and developed personal contacts with others that have transitioned. As for resources, it is very hit or miss depending on we're you live, it will take effort for the newbe to know what to look and ask for.
My answers to these question are a general response and without a lot of explanation and details only apply to me and no one else so please don't read anything else into them.
Peggie Lee