For me there is usually a two prong response when i see a gorgeous woman: Want to have/ Want to be. And it is often more one than the other. So a guy who is a gorgeous girl, its a bit more 'be'.
For me there is usually a two prong response when i see a gorgeous woman: Want to have/ Want to be. And it is often more one than the other. So a guy who is a gorgeous girl, its a bit more 'be'.
I have to say, I am rather enjoying this thread. It hit's on something I have thought about often. I try to make myself look as feminine as possible, The process of the transformation is as important to me as the time spent enfem. When enfem, I guess I do find an attraction to some of the girls here which goes beyond an appreciation for the illusion presented in the photos. I do appreciate all that goes into it, I often am so surprised when seeing the thread of the person in their male form, then their female form. Funny how after seeing the person in their male form, whatever attraction I did have seems to pass. In other words, the female form is beautiful regardless of the plumbing. I try not to analyze and only appreciate.....Great thread......and BTW, if I was the Madilyn mentioned in the opening comment, then thank you, if not I will pretend I was.
Lori, there is truth to what you say. When i first started crossdressing it was just under garments and it was a sexual thing, but that was a while ago. I do think when I began wearing wigs, make-up and outer garments I dressed in a sexy provocative way to create a sexual creature that I would be attracted to. but when I joined this site the dressing has become much less sexual and more of a way to experience my femme side and to feel the joy of being a woman. I believe my personality has been experiencing changes and I have become more caring and loving as a result, softer if you will, like a woman. I do love seeing the look and fashion of other ladies in the forum and try to pick up tips to look as femme as I possibly can without being a freak show...a difficult but fun task mind you! And I do think there is, at times, a competitive side as Cheryl expressed, where I want to be the best looking woman in the room!
I've never been confused by my reaction to an attractive feminine appearance. Underlying factors are irrelevant.
Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.
Eleanor Roosevelt
Madilyn my dear, you most definitely are the woman mentioned in the quoteOriginally Posted by Madilyn A.
An interesting question
I find my reactions are a mix of admiration and envy (for those who pass). Also I haven't been on the site that long, but I have learnt a lot from seeing how others present themselves.
A picture of a beautiful woman is her image on paper, a sculpture her image carved from stone. A good looking cross-dresser is nothing more than a female image rendered on a man. I can admire the beauty and artistry of the subject matter with out having and feelings towards the medium. I wish to have that skill of my own. But it is not usually skill it about being born the right kind of clay.
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I've often wondered what my attraction to seeing photos of cross dressers is. It's not sexual, I don't physically want to be with them but at the same time I'm very attracted. I think it's becuase it's something I want to emulate. I want, when I'm dressed as Joanne to erase any perceived maleness and to be seen as a pretty, well put together female. Think that's why I am drawn to photos of cross dressers- they exhibit what I want for myself- to be a pretty female when I'm dessed as such.
I have never looked at another cross dresser and thought, "wow, she is hot." There is an admiration of the presentation and even some minor jealousy that it must be easier for them when out but a photo is not the same as real life. To me, a dude in a dress is never "hot." Myself included.
I'm generalizing, but I would cautiously put it out there that we're way too hung up on the gay/not gay thing. Research suggests that human sexuality is complex -- it's not an either/or thing; instead all human beings are somewhere on a sliding scale of sexuality in terms of orientation. I am incredibly attracted to the female form, and not in the least attracted to the masculine male form. Does that mean I've never been attracted to a pretty, well-presented gurl? Absolutely not. I'm not conflicted about this at all, it's just the way it is.
Ok, so I'm attracted to the feminine form, as is every straight guy. So, does an attractive CD catch my eye? Sure!!! But the internal process is WOW, she's incredible, followed by a little jealousy, followed by, "how does she accomplish that incredible presentation"?
Then again, I've been very (that's VERY) happily married for 41 years, so I have my own version of "hot" at home all the time! So, whether it be cis-women or trans-women, for me it's that I'm completely impressed!
My reactions are usually of respect, admiration, and envy. I have looked at others and thought 'wow', but it's not because I want to get intimate with them. It's because they look awesome, and I highly appreciate that. And most of the time, I am observing how they create their appearance. I'm always looking for new ideas and inspiration. So, there's never any sexual attraction to the person, but there is a sexual element to what I view. The main attraction comes from applying what I see, to myself. I get turned on thinking about how it would feel to look like, or be that person.
Like others have already said, I am attracted to the female image, period. Doesn't matter what canvas it is painted on.
Let me start by saying there r MANY here that look completely female to me. But, I'm very fickle about who I find attractive. Which is an entirely different matter! I'm only attracted to feminine, pretty, and shapely women. Few here fit THAT bill.
When I first arrived here after dressing in a complete vacuum for a decade, I was shocked by all the pics posted of "men in dresses". After 7 years here and seeing 100's of dressers in person, I've gotten completely over that.
But, I've spent 17 years trying everything I could think of to hide my maleness and to try to look like a female I mite find attractive. Few here seem to care about that as much as I do. I've come to understand and to respect their reasons for that.
So, if I find a dresser attractive? She should probably go get a modeling job!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
There are many on this site that I consider attractive women. Nothing more, just attractive women.
I've never really had any feelings for guys, but my reaction when I see a really passable ladies, I do have a reaction that any one would expect of a guy seeing a hot attractive female. Then I start thinking that can,t be a guy and start to picture "her" as and guy, and all the attraction disappears. Maybe I'm goofy but what I see is what I expect it to be no hidden surprizes.
Jealously, just out and out jealously. Why can’t I look that great? It’s not fair!!!!
Who dares wears Get in, get out without being noticed
I get asked that a lot and here is how I explain it. I can see and enjoy the beauty of a mountain, beach, city, painting and not go there or buy it so why can’t I enjoy the beauty of a female image be they male or female. We all have things we find beautiful or appealing in life and it is nothing more than that, we don’t act on it. I love the smell of coffee but I can’t stand the taste.
A beautiful female image is something to be enjoyed and emulated. I have 2 beautiful nieces, they are very pretty. I can say that as a matter of fact I tell people that all the time, this doesn’t make me a pervert. They are pretty but I am not attracted to them I just see the beauty within them. Just my thoughts.
When I see guys dressed up as women who look really beautiful I get jealous. I wish I could look that good.
Personally, I don't care whether it's a man or woman if it turns me on... it turns me on. I've never been with a man, but I fantasize about it a lot. If there were no HIV I probably would have tried it by now. I had plenty of chances..hanging out in Transgender bars. But I still consider myself as straight. If I had been with ten guys in my life, that wouldn't make me gay,or Bi, no more than setting a few dozen bricks would make me a bricklayer.
We tend to get hung up on labels.
Now here's an odd one. I really get turned on by looking at myself dressed in women's clothes. Its my favorite "porn."
Anybody else?
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Cara
Long ago, Mad Magazine ran a cartoon showing a middle-aged man walking down a city street with his wife on his arm. The man was looking at an attractive young woman who was walking toward him. The cartoon showed what the man and his wife were thinking. The wife's thought showed the man with the attractive young woman on his arm. The wife was frowning vigorously. The man's thought showed him with his wife on his arm and showed the man wearing the same outfit that the attractive young was wearing. The man was smiling broadly. That says it all for me.
When I see photos of other CDers, or even suspect CDers, I instantly start the critique. How dose she look? Is she passable? What gives her/him away? What mistakes were made that I can learn from? Its pretty rare I jump to the "wow she gets my attention" thoughts. I think it is especially tough to pass as a genetic women to another CDer! I find myself looking at some genetic women in much the same critical way, especially if she is tall and thin or otherwise has a potential genetic male shape, but few gg's do.
I'm amazed by some of the presentations, but knowing as I do, I couldn't possibly rise to the occasion, so to speak.
For me, it's like seeing a Lamborghini shell knowing it's got an old Honda Civic 3-cylinder unit under the bonnet (hood). Nothing to get excited about!
Rebecca
yep, many of us are very pretty. i Love seeing others who are like
me who understand what it means. well...as best as anyone can understand
.....lol!
we seem to be very happy people in our pictures. ♥
if you look like a girl to me, i think of you as a girl. but a girlfriend and
not more than that.....heehee!
Hi Babbs, I just totally enjoy looking at beautiful female images be they real or make believe.
There are some pretty believable beautiful Crossdressers on this forum.
There are a couple ladies here that really raise the bar pretty high,
And I truly love looking at their pictures wishing that I could reach that level.
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Having my ears triple pierced is AWESOME, ~~...
I can explain it to you, But I can't comprehend it for you !
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you are correct, and i agree there are many beautiful girls here.
i do admire their beauty and thats about it.
no sexual attraction at all!! i'm not interested in "gurls" as i am
"straight" and only date men...
paula
For me its admiration and respect of the time trouble and effort some of the girls go to , and then there are those naturally pretty ,I don't aspire to be with any of them in a " romantic " sense but I do feel inspired to try a little harder to emulate there great looks ,mostly without success but we are all work in progress imho Katie x.
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