A question I have is about leg posture if that is the right word. For example guys typically sit with knees apart, ladies no. I find it had to sit like that for very long. The muscles get tired of holding that position. And crossing your legs lady like? For get a bout it! Just can't seem to do it.
I only remember to try to do it when I'm dressed. I probably should do it more often.
Can anyone give some information on accomplishing this? Does it get easier over time?
Thanks
I would love to be able to cross my legs all ladylike, but it seems I'm not built for that
So I usually just make sure to keep my knees together and cross my ankles. Occasionally I manage to simulate a decent leg cross, if I'm in the right chair or on the edge of a bed or something, as demonstrated in some of my pics on the photo thread ...
I think it all depends on a persons individual stature and physique. I just naturally sit with my legs crossed in what I suppose might be construed as a feminine manner. Someone with shorter, thicker legs might find it uncomfortable or near impossible.
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I can't seem to do the male way. I don't know why. I remember, growing up and in church, my dad would sit "lady-like".
Hi Alana, I try to set with my legs crossed and check my walk to a feminine gate.
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I think women can more easily cross their legs at the knee because their hips are wider, so that the angle formed by their legs from hips to knees is less acute. Put your hands close together and try to cross your index fingers at the second knuckle. The further apart you separate your index fingers at the first knuckle, the easier to cross them at the second.
That said, I find it easy to cross my right leg over my left knee, but very difficult to do the reverse. It is also much more comfortable doing the cross when wearing hose - for some reason.
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With short thick legs like mine it is very hard to do. I try to practice. It puts stress on some beat up knees and gives the hips a little stress also. But I will keep practicing until I can either do it or not.
I've learned to cross my legs when sitting in a comfortable chair but usually keep my knees together and only cross my ankles. I have never been able to sit on a sofa with my legs curled along side.
Crossing at the knees hurts after a short time for me. I have fat thighs and short legs though.
Used to be able to cross my legs right over left until my knees wore out. Now I just keep the knees together they best I can. It's harder because we're not built the same way as women are.
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There are some good YouTube videos out there...practice helps too. Like walking in heels eventually you can get the hang of it. If crossing your legs like a girl is tricky you might try sitting with your legs together but crossed at the ankles under the chair.
Hi AlanaG
Crossing your legs while sitting does give more of a feminine appearance however I think it's even more important to remember to stand with your feet together. Looking like a fullback doesn't aid you if you're looking to present a more feminine stature.
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Even when I was a skinny little kid, I could never cross my legs as women do, and I still can't. The best ladylike leg-crossing I can manage is keeping my thighs together and crossing my ankles as Renee Elise said.
When iwear a skirt or dress I often sit with my legs crossed at the knee and if feels so natural for me. Just keep doing it you will get it in time.
Angie
When I was younger, about 20 years ago and back, I was able to cross my legs and cross my ankles. I can now only cross my legs. I believe it has to do with flexibility more than anything else. Back then, my legs were much more muscular than they are today. Having a good tuck also improves the ability to cross the legs.
I can cross my legs at my ankles easily, but assuming a feminine leg crossing while sitting on the sofa is out of the question.
I do try to keep my legs together whenever I'm sitting and I try to walk with a feminine pose as much as possible.
Honestly, I think that if you want and need to look like a lady, that you need to cross your legs "lady like". You surely try to walk, "lady like", correct? I do my best and I'm built like a linebacker.....
You have to consider that natural women have been doing this everyday, every minute of their lives since birth...they have been practicing wayyy longer than us, we have a lot of catching up to do!
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I've been fortunate to be able to cross my lady like. I have long legs and my wife even jabs me sometimes when I cross them in guy mode. I do it without thinking sometimes
I have been working on learning to do this for years. I think it looks so fem and hot!
I can verify that it helps to have slim legs. The knee crossing is easier. Plus, when have u ever seen a big woman cross her knees?
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I sit most of the time with my right leg over my left knee it helps support my worn out back and I can also see my lovely 3" open toe wedge shoes and painted nails
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I don't know how it works. But I always could and do continue to cross my legs in what would be considered a feminine manner. It's not a "girlie" pose, but more professional. I can still wrap a foot behind the opposite leg to go super girlish, but it is not what I will do in every day life. The ability to cross ones legs in a certain manner seems to dependent on more that desire. If it is difficult, keep doing it. I can only get easier.
Della
Practice helps, as I do not have thin legs, but biker thighs, and still cross my legs rather naturally. If you really struggle with it, there is the knees together feet splayed out or together to one side method that is feminine.
The danger to this is that if you really do want to remain off the radar, then you don't want it to become second nature. It is for me and I have gotten some odd looks: I have well maintained shaved legs for years now, so at one point this summer, I was not "thinking about it" and had my legs crossed, fairly short shorts on, and my sister in law stopped in her tracks and stared at my legs for a few beats, furrowed her brow, and walked off. She has not quite treated me the same since. (My brother in law is about as cisGendered as a human can get, the poster boy for socially constructed "maleness.") The joke is on her I suppose, as I admire and envy her wardrobe while my brother in law doesn't seem to ever notice!
PS: My avatar is not quite a natural pose, I was too busy playing around with the camera!
I have always crossed my legs and often sit with them parallel.
I have never known anything different and I do get picked occasionally for doing it.
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Same here. I love sitting like this, makes me look more feminine and it improves my composure. Only downside is that you indeed get some weird looks sometimes.Originally Posted by Beverley Sims
Sometimes I twirl my ancle around the other side of my leg for the ultimate lady-agile look.
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