I chose a female therapist the second time and found one that I really really have liked she was very open with suggestions I emailed her it upfront and told him what was going on and we dove right into the cross-dressing issues on my first visit
I just was not comfortable talking about my cross-dressing issues with a male counselor I was assigned to the first time I went to counseling
Looks like you might like them and I see a counselor or get a divorce as far as what it's done for my cross-dressing it's help me control the urges it's help me talk through the urges it's also help me talking to my wife about it my wife still insists that it stays deep in the closet but that beats Adivorce