Been working on two post and decided to merge the two. Both are about commutation.
If I have Offended.
The reason I started this post, is I realized that I have not been clear on what I always want to say.
Being dyslexic and dysgraphia a disability with the written word, is why most of my post are short. Writing is like for me like math is for most people, even asking a good friend here to read over it for me, I want to I get it right. Commutation has always been hard for me.
There is a lot on here about commutation, and the importance of telling ones wife or SO, while I agree in principle.
There was a post this last week that used a graph to ex plane the process of dress and the emotion that go along with it. I got it, put anything in term of math and it makes sense yes I am one of those people that likes math.
Now to my second point, to some they just don't get math, no matter how much you explain it, it's not going to happen they don't want anything to do with it. Trying to explain your dressing to someone, your wife, it's like math they don't get it, no matter how much you explain it, it's not going to happen they don't want anything to do with it. As a math teacher I can get some students to tolerate it, but that is as far as it will go. I can tell the first day, if a student is going to make it though math, they are not going to accept it they are closed learning math, it's not going to happen, they end up dropping the class with in the first 3 weeks. There are some that their hatred for math crosses over to hating me because I represent math to them. I understand this for these student they have been traumatized by a teacher in the past.
If you know how your wife is going to react to your dressing before hand, because you love this person and the fear of losing them, you are not going to tell. It is easy to tell someone, you should just tell, but if you not walking in their heel, then you don't know what going on in there life. Only they know, when and if to tell.
We may not always agree, we should accept that this is their decision and only they have all the fact to make this decision and we should not condemn. There are success story here all the time, of telling of ones dressing and of acceptance, only later to turn sour.
In closing, we do, a great job in supporting each other but sometime we say the wrong think or put the wrong words in, not meaning what was said at all. I have done that more than once, even had a post deleted, reason I was just rude I did apologize to that person.
If I have offended anyone in the past please forgive me.