What makes you “pass”?
I have found that going to the mall between the hours of 10am to 6pm dressed as a business woman that I can pull it off about 90% of the time.
I wear everything “sensible”. Not too short or too bright, or too sheer (darn!). But that’s what it take to “pass”: to “blend”, so I blend.
And I really enjoy the outings.
What about you, how do you pull it off?
I don't really think that I pass. But some others have told me that I am wrong. Somethings that may assist:
- I dress appropriate to the situation
- My wig is really good
- Confidence
- And, I think most importantly, I don't try to pass and I don't care if people know that I am a guy, so I just act normal, the same as I would as if I was presenting as a guy.
My hair is past my shoulders... I dress like any other woman in my age group... Conservative with my makeup... 40B cup breasts... And confidence. I try to soften my voice but so far I have not had any problems. Hope I didn't just jinx myself!!!
I do exactly like what Nadine and Joan said
- I dress appropriate to the situation
- My wig is really good
I dress like any other woman in my age group... Conservative with my makeup... 38C cup breasts... And confidence. I try to soften my voice but so far I have not had any problems.
Whatever doesn't make me "flunk" I guess. I just go with the flow and the feelings. If we are not convinced of who we are ourselves, how will others be?
Second star to the right and straight on till morning
I think the posts above pretty much cover it except for always wearing heels.
What shouts "crossdresser" is six inch platform heels, a way too short miniskirt, way too much makeup, too small hips and too large breasts.
Being young, fine boned, height within most girl's range, thin with a small waist and fem face. As a teen in guy mode I had people think I was a girl. With sisters who enjoyed teaching me to do the girl things I had a lot of practice with dressing and makeup. I never developed the overly fem movements that some take up. I was teased that I walked like a girl. Learning to be comfortable in women's clothes takes time. One thing that most CDs don't get the benefit of is coaching. Girls are taught to cross their legs, sit like this, walk a certain way, slide your dress up slightly when getting in the car. Movements that most guys never know about. Carrying books on your hip rather than hanging down on your arm like guys.
I was in a store one time and looking at a scarf and the SA said you are the only guy I've seen that handled that like a woman.
Ditto! Actually, when you forget that you are dressed, you are passing.Originally Posted by Nadine Spirit
Hard to say when you actually pass and don't as a lot of people fail to look up. At well over 6' in heels (always heels!) I naturally draw attention - as any tall girl does. This invites closer scrutiny but most people have to be breathing the same air before they notice. And I always dress well, never for blending in. At this time of year that means a smart coat, 3" ankle boots and stockings (sometimes patterned opaques) for what is visible. Doesn't sound special but Vancouver was voted the 3rd worst dressed city in the world and it shows.
Angela xx
Bad lighting and great makeup.
Marcia (LOVES) Blue
Jennifer I love that statement! Very true.
"Missed it by that much!"
I in all honesty don't think that I ' pass ' ,but I do use what I have learned about deportment ,decorum, dressing ,and not using to much make up all topped of with a nice smile to try to blend . If I can do this its a great day if not well ,you will just have to take me as I am ....... or you could always turn the other check . Katie x.
I'm really enjoying the comments.
I like Jennifer's the best: "when you forget that you are dressed, you are passing".
I like Rachel's too: being called "Miss".
I'm 6'1" so I wear 3/4" heels, unless I go to a Gay bar then I get to wear my black-mini and 3" heels.
I like my "hooker" outfit the best but I'd never wear that to the mall!
The photo that I posted I'm wearing a business suit: jacket (which you see) and matching skirt.
I ALWAYS were long sleeves since I have big arms (weight lifting) so the jacket tops hide a lot.
Also wear a 42C, which is the perfect size for my build. Hair below shoulders (this photo doesn't show it, but I've got a ponytail).
Someone said it was "attitude" and I agree. Act as if you belong.
Great comments. Enjoy reading them all.
Last edited by CherylFlint; 10-28-2014 at 05:05 AM.
I have to agree with Sue. I have found that keeping my head high, having a quick smile, and looking at people while I go about my business as if I belong to be there as I am (which I fell I do) I seem to blend in. The longer I have been dressing the less negative looks I get. I get way more positive reactions than negative ones. There is also great truth in the statement that if you want to dress to be noticed, you will be noticed. It all depends on what you want. Even for an attention w**re like me, I tone it down a lot when doing mundane things.
I don't even try to pass. I do try to look my best and blend in and in that respect I think I do rather well. At least I am accepted as I appear. My voice, well that is another matter. Sometimes I can present a nearly femme voice but I know that most of the time, people here male when I speak. As long as they treat me as I am and with respect, it's all good.
Depending on traffic, I just use a heavy foot on the accelerator! Actually, I would love to really pass, but since that is out of the cards, I am happy to blend. I am always dressed just a little, and sometimes a lot, less casually than most of the girls and ladies put there, i.e. more formally or dressier. That being said, I am not a wall flower and do want to be noticed for how well I look, well at least how well I look in my mirror at home and in my mind! I do the business lady, the classy lady going to a play, the more girly (whatever that really means) woman with flowing or frilly skirts or dresses, and the harder and sexier woman in tighter short skirts or leather.
How do I pull it off? Well, in my opinion, quite well based on all the nice compliments I get when out, some of which I believe are actually very sincere. I do realize that sometimes my wonder outfit actually wasn't that wonderful once I get home and think about it. But, that to me is part of my fun in continually trying new looks, outfits and styles, some that work and some that don't. I am very aware what other women wear and I try to get close to those styles that I see and like.
PS: As said above, confidence and attitude also play a big part in the whole scheme of things when it comes to passing/blending.
I try to blend, and based on my experiences, I think I do. For me, appropriate dress to the occasion (from jeans and flats to dress and heels, depending on the situation). I have good quality human hair wig, so that helps. The biggest thing for me is confidence. Head up, shoulders back, act like you belong there, which you do. For me, that seems to go a long way.
(that and really good makeup, which I continue to work on...)
Seize the day. Life is short, and you're dead a long time...just sayin' ...
Great question and intrested to see the answers. I know I don't pass as most don't really and I try to blend.
I have a chance this weekend to actually go out which being Halloween prob won't matter much anyway.
But I plan on doing an in home dress rehearsal, with makeup and walking.
I do agree you have to own it hold your head up and just be yourself with just a bit of feminine flare
Hope I pull it off.
Don't know about passing, and I love those who say "Miss"
I do sometimes forget I've a male body, so that probably helps me pass
If I had a secret, it would be dress according to activity, less is best with makeup, and just be confident
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I just dress like the women I see everyday and go about my day.
I agree with Jennifer just forget you are dressed.
The best way to pass is to:
Attend a convention for the sightless.
Take advantage of a power failure after dark.
Halloween.
But for me to not be too obviously a guy in a dress,:
Appropriate clothing
Appropriate accessories including a wedding ring set
Appropriate hair
Appropriate shoes and purse
Appropriate nails
Because if you dress like your fantasy hooker, you are going to look like a guy in a fantasy and out yourself. But give them what they expect to see and unless they are willing to spend the time, about 6.5 seconds, they will not process that something does not fit. But since their love for their phone will not allow them more than 6 seconds of freedom, they usually pass by. Unless they and their phone are having a tiff.
It isn't that you have to be pretty, or slim, or short. You just need to put enough effort in to the illusion to project what you want them to see. Then the onus is on them. Is it a guy? Is it a woman? If I say something and it IS a woman, then she is going to be upset and make a fuss and everyone is going to look not at her but to the impolite person. But by then their phone is calling and they HAVE to read that text. Might be something important like a friend saying that they are going to the grocery store.
About every fourth time out some homophobe will say something barely audible. Or about one in twenty times some self appointed sexual orientation expert, who wishes to make it clear to all that he has no social etiquette, may say something. But otherwise hold your head high and remember, you know more than they ever will about life and choices.
Just have fun. That and a smile will do more than you can imagine.
I am having SO MUCH FUN with this!
Last edited by BillieAnneJean; 10-28-2014 at 03:23 AM.
What makes me pass? Prune juice.
OK.
Distance and motion. I can go out presenting any way I want here in Vegas. As long as I don't enable scrutiny, no one notices.
I've waited so long for this time. Makeup is so frustrating. Shaking hands and I look so old. This was a mistake.
My new maid's outfit is cute. Sure fits tight.
And then I step into the bedroom and in the mirror, I see a beautiful woman looking back at me.
Smile, Honey! You look fabulous!
Now that you've stolen my thunder, if you'll pardon the pun, I'll simply comment on the genuine point of the post.
Not much can make us pass unless our genetics deemed fit to be very kind and allow us to assume either gender presentation without effort. Very few of those, so good makeup and dress to blend is the best I can offer. I love to 'dolly up', as I hate looking like a bargain basement offer, but then I stand out like a lighthouse in a city.
Rebecca
Everyone missed the first, Lots of smoke and Mirrors. No in all honesty, I know i will never "pass". but in my mind and what i see in the mirror is what matters most. My wife called me an Ugly Skank, took it as a compliment. At least she see's me as a girl. I dress very conservatively, nothing that would draw attention to myself, no overly high heels or short skirts. I don't venture out in public so i can't say if i pass or not
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