What is your name???

[Sonya]

I am just curious about how you feel about having a different name for your female expression.

- Do you really like having a typical female name when you are dressed and preferred to be addressed as that?
- Do you have one only because it makes communication more comfortable (your name matches your presentation) with others?
- Would you consider or do you ever use your birth name when fully dressed and meet someone new?
- Do you use a female name to protect your privacy?

I adopted Sonya as my second name, I do like the name but I am not very comfortable using it all the time. When I am out at friendly GLBTIQ venues, I am somewhat comfortable using Sonya. Recently I went to a party where there were a mixed crowd and I really struggled using Sonya (I was fully dressed), I felt like I was lying and I am sure people could sense my uneasiness and I am sure that makes people reluctant to strike a conversation with me. I think I would much rather use my birth name but that could also be not too comfortable for people to understand, so I am little bit lost here!! Also my birth name is very rare (maybe 1 in 100 million! or more) and I am not really ready for everyone to know about my crossdressing. I am wondering if anyone other than me feels this way?

[Talisker]

Mostly i use my real name even when dressed. Just me in a dress and i dont try to change personality or voice etc.
I just picked Talisker as needed a login name.
Have separate email address with another female name just to keep things separate from real life.

[noeleena]

Hi.

All of my names are world wide, so does not matter to me who knows ,my first name birth name is both male and female , any way,

noel = no-el to noeleena. edward to edwina my two next names are German and Prussian and last is Loch-head,= Head of the Loch = river / lake , Scottish

the other two are mannfried , Von Reutchthos,

When i changed to noeleena, oh this too can be noeleen'e' in german .for every one the next day after i was interviewed for Two of our nation wide TVNZ stations every one called me noeleena, the only ones who call me no-el are Jos and a few very close friends , though even they call me noeleena ,

All other friends who have known me for 57 years all call me noeleena, so no slip ups with that ,

I did not wont to change my names as it reflects both side,s of who and what i am both body and mind , I belive the name Mom gave me was the right one.

Even those i worked with and have contact in business quite a few, to them no issues even though over the years they called me noel they changed like every one and called me noeleena, so you see it works for some of us , you need to remember im well known so it helps .

...noeleena...

[Nikkilovesdresses]

I thought a lot about names, and tried a few out, but Nikki is totally natural to me for a very good reason- it's a feminization of my given name. The friends who've heard it feel really comfortable with it, and I love that it unites my two sides so perfectly. Most of my non-British friends used to call me Nicky, though I introduced myself always as Nick, and I was Nicky as a small child.

Maybe you have an attachment to Sonya, but if it doesn't sit right with you to use that name, heed your instinct. Don't force it, just keep your eyes and ears open- something will occur to you one day that feels good and suits you, I feel sure.

[kimdl93]

I was named kim at birth...funny how that worked out, huh?

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Sonya, I don't go out so a name is not a problem, When I joined this forum I needed a name so I didn't
want a name that had any connection with anyone in my life past or present so I thought long and hard
and figured that Blue is my favorite color and Orchids are my favorite flower,
And that was the beginning of Blue Orchid. >Orchid

[iGenny]

I'm almost 58, and unlike most of you I didn't even feel a need to dress until a few years ago. Anyway, I chose a female name to create accounts for 'girl' sites like iVillage and to get Reddit subscriptions like makeupaddiction, and of course here once I stopped lurking.

I really don't know if I would have given myself a new name if I hadn't needed new logins. (Darn, more self analysis ahead...)

[EllenJo]

Sonya, a rose by any other name is still a rose. I use Ellen Jo to protect my true identity while online. The name came from a girl I had a crush on back in high school. I not only liked her but I thought she dressed more feminine than any other girl I knew at the time. My wife calls me Suzie. She gave me this name based on her calling me Suzie Homemaker when I do the house chores while dressed. Call yourself whatever you want to. Be Sonya when you want to be. If using your given name makes you feel more comfortable then use that. It is your life and your identity.
Hugs
Ellen Jo, Suzie, Toni, Karen, Julie, Bill, Bob, George, Ringo, Allen, Kim, Nikki, Sonya!

[sometimes_miss]

I picked a female name to use here, as I saw everyone else doing it, so I just thought it was appropriate.

[Zylia]

Excellent question! It isn't about what name we choose as much as why we choose to use another name. I wouldn’t say I preferred to be addressed as Zylia, but it certainly makes communication more comfortable, makes identification on the internet easier and protects my privacy. It’s a tool for me rather than something that properly identifies me.

[Krisi]

Kim is one of the lucky ones. I used to have a male friend named "Dana". He got a lot of junk mail assuming he was actually a female.

For me, "Homer" or "Bart" just wouldn't sound right for a person with boobs, hips and long hair, that's why I use a female name when dressed.

[CarlaWestin]

I think it would destroy the wonderful illusion of being in the wonderful company of women if all of us used our guy names here. Although, I correspond with other CD's using their male names. Interesting, I see them as their male selves in my mind's eye. For years, I was just big-girl-too online. It's way more personable and ladylike to be Carla, when I'm Carla.

[susan jackson]

I have always been Susan

It's just unfortunate that my parents chose to christen me 'Phillip'!

[Cheryl T]

Yes, I do like my female name and prefer to be addressed that way when I present this way.
Can you imagine one of us going through all that we do to look attractive and feminine and then saying "Hi, I'm Maximillian!". I don't think that would work very well.

[Martina]

When I was about 10yrs old the famialy used to go over to my Grand parents and I used to be friends with a girl called Christina, that most shortend to Tina, as I liked the Tina sound so I added an 'A' to my birth name to make Martina.

[Sarah Louise]

I picked a female name to use here, as I saw everyone else doing it, so I just thought it was appropriate.

Same here. I don't really feel like I'm Sarah. I just like the name and it seems to be the done thing on here. Basically, I'm just a guy who likes dressing up in women's clothes.

[Tina B.]

Not out and about, so I don't use the feminine name except on here. I originally chose the name for another site I used to belong to, because everyone there used a female name. I spent a few days coming up with it, looking for something that fit me, not to far from my name, and had a little meaning to me. As it turns out after all of these years, it didn't matter much as I never use it.
I would love to hear myself called by it, but being in the closet, and a different name being a step to far for the wife, it's not going to happen.

[Andy66]

I have met a few CDs who use their male names even while dressed. It seemed like a non issue for them. I also knew a guy who called his mom Fred as a joke. Eventually everyone started calling her Fred. So just call yourself whatever you feel comfortable with.

BTW, Andy is a masculinization of my real name, and comes from a neighbor kid who couldnt say my name correctly when I was about 12 years old. I use my real name in real life though, no matter how Im dressed. Its not perfect, but it is me. *shrug*

[Martina]

When I was 10yrs old the family used to go over to my Grand parents and I used to play with a girl called Christina, that most shortend to Tina as I liked the Tina part so I added an 'A' to my birth name to make Martina.

[suchacutie]

During the first 48 hours after we identified the fact that I had a feminine self there were a long list of "revelations" that occurred during our constant discussion. The first one was this amazing difference between my masculine self and this emerging feminine self. It immediately became confusing if we didn't identify these parts of me, as we had to keep explaining what part we were talking about, so we quickly decided the "she" part needed a name, since the "he" part already had one.

So, I made a list of names I thought would be ok, and my wife picked from that list, and Tina was born.

When I joined this forum, Tina had only been named for a few hours so I was a bit protective of her new name and wasn't sure I wanted to use it here, or anywhere else, at that time. So, I thought about a descriptive kind of name for this forum, and with a very young Tina, and my wife having just said that something about Tina was "cute", the name such-a-cutie also seemed "cute", so I took out the hyphens and here we are.

My feminine self is always referred to as "Tina", whether talking about her when in drab, or referring to myself when transformed to her. We love the separation and it fits the way Tina has evolved over the years as a separate entity with her own life!

[im-sparkles]

The first time my wife seen me dressed i had sparkles in the eye shadow i was wearing. She exclaimed "wow sparkle!" Since then she has always called me that so i use it because i have yet to find a full name i really like for my other side.
When i am dressed i prefer my female name. I want total separation between the two sides. I guess you could say i prefer having a sort of split personality.

[Amy Lynn3]

My birth name happens to be one that is used for male and females. All is needed is to change the spelling, but it is pronounced the same. I did not use the female version of my birth name, because I have never liked it.

My female name is one that I have always liked and if I were a gg it would be changed to Amy.

[Tracii G]

My female name comes from high school where every one called me Tracy.Many said I looked like a Tracy WTH?
It stuck thru out high school and old friends still call me that sometimes although they know my real name.
I added the two I's at the end because it gave it a feminine feel.

[Jenniferathome]

...

- Do you really like having a typical female name when you are dressed and preferred to be addressed as that?
- Do you have one only because it makes communication more comfortable (your name matches your presentation) with others?
- Would you consider or do you ever use your birth name when fully dressed and meet someone new?
- Do you use a female name to protect your privacy?

...

1) The name "Jennifer" has no special meaning for me. It's name I like but I don't relate to it and when it is used it still sounds odd. Still, I do prefer a female name when out.
2) I think having a name by which others can refer to you that matches your presentation makes things easier for all involved.
3) My birth name is unequivocally male. It would sound odd when I am dressed but it would feel normal to me.
4) No, the name has nothing to do with privacy.

[Katey888]

We already have a thread for the origin of your female name (here: http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...ur-Female-Name) - please try to address the questions in the OP rather than just restate what should more correctly be confined to the sticky thread... otherwise this is just repeating what is already on the forum and you all know that ain't happenin'!



My answer...

I'd feel really odd engaging with others under my male name when presenting female... it just seems wrong generally, but then being partially closeted and not out, I need to have some active partitioning both IRL and in my head... so yes, it's partly to protect privacy, partly to prevent incongruity (my male forename does not have a female variant, although my middle name does...) and do I like it? Yeah - it's a great feeling and I think it goes well...

If you feel uncomfortable about your chosen name, maybe you just need to choose one you feel completely comfortable with? At least it's relatively easy for us to do that...

Katey x