Hi all,
So I have come out to all my close friends and family. Three ladies (two wives of close friends and a very close lady friend) have been very supportive and willing to help. I am now divorced, was pretty brutal as my best girlfriend who supplied all my clothes ended up having an affair with my wife who didn't want to participate in the crossdressing in any way including finding dirty female clothes in the hamper, but life goes on... my children don't know but I would like to normalize it with them while keeping it a secret from greater society but kids say the darnedest things (two girls ages 5 and 7). So my problem, I really enjoy this thing and it is starting to take on a life of its own (by that I am questioning is it more than just dressing?) I mean don't get me wrong, I like my male parts and I have no interest in guys, LOVE WOMEN!! but sometimes I think, wouldn't it be nice to not have to shave anything! or have breasts and longer eyelashes, not be going bald.... and then I think but I don't want to do that all the time! Frankly I am a bit scared and the fact that I used to just think this is something I do to feel better, less stressed, happier, more powerful (joyous, aware, in control), but it seems that I want more. Recently I went to a Halloween party with over 500 people and one of my close friends. Women came up to me and asked me where I got my dress as it was so pretty but then they asked me what my costume was and until I talked they had no idea I was a girl. YAHOO!!! I really enjoyed that. What I didn't enjoy was being hit on by a lot of drunk guys. So to stop rambling and get to the point.... in my quest to accept myself for who I am I have to say I am a bit lost.... Any help, suggestions, advice? Yes I am seeing a therapist and we are discussing a lot of things but I wanted to open it up to the larger community.
Be well all! Life is a process, you are not at the end when you are unhappy with the result because you still have to accept the result!!
Kendra