Before going to bed set out your guy things to wear the next morning, and immediately dress when you get up. Don't shave, etc.; just head to the kitchen for breakfast, then the garage to begin the chores.
If you don't let things get out of control/messy, the cleanup will only take a short time, then you can relax and change into Sarah's things the rest of the day/weekend.
DonnaT
I know "she" doesn't really go away as far as I'm concerned. And there are more than a few times when "she" monopolizes my time quite a bit. And it's no different: for some reason, whenever Calliope takes over, I don't get much done, which leads to loads of procrastination.
Lately, I've been thinking about a different approach: maybe I can involve "her" into my activities, my art, anything I can... instead of stopping everything else to make room for "her". We'll see...
^ Kallyope, my SO did exactly as you say. She began to go out in public about 5-7 years ago, and I have to tell you that it was all consuming then. She is the one who felt awful for not getting the things done that she felt she should. And so she incorporated work with her outings. She'd take a laptop with her and go to various Starbuck's, etc, and get stuff done. She'd stop to have a bite to eat someplace else, and maybe go to a shop or two, then back to the laptop in a different café. This made a big difference and helped to normalize the outings to the point where there didn't seem to be such a need to go out dressed as before. She still does go out when her schedule permits it, but when she can't it's her choice, so she is more than OK with it.
Reine
We can't get 'her' to go away because as pogo said, 'We have met the enemy and he is us'. Trying to fool yourself that your feminine feelings are not part of your own personality by referring to it in third person as if it's someone else won't work because, well, it's not. It's YOU.Originally Posted by Sarah Charles
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
Actually, some of us find it very easy to make her go away. Probably much easier for crossdressers who identify as men than those with strong internal feminine identities.
Im single but not retired and i have lots of time to dress ,this does not keep me from getting done what i have to do .I make sure all the chores whatever they may be get done before i dress .This way i feel much better and enjoy myself a lot more .Take care of business first is my motto
I have a hubcap diamond star halo
Nicole, my H would say this as well as he has no feminine identity either...at least, not an internal one! I have suggested a few times that I would support him in making 'her' go away, but he's not biting, lol. Too much fun, apparently.
On well, maybe old age and me hiding the viagra script he's likely to pursue will help
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