The only lesson we can really learn is to be honest about our CDing before becoming a couple. Anything else is courting future disaster.
But that's no help to a man who, decades into a marriage, discovers that what he thought was a minor quirk or fetish turns out to be an overwhelming compulsion.
Melissa, however hard this is for both of you, I don't think you should regret your decision. She was going to find out sooner or later, and the longer you bottled yourself up, the more destructive the trapped feelings would have become.
You did the right thing.
Sincere good wishes for a happy outcome dear girl,
Nikki
I love it! In fact the first thing I'd do would be to build a shelter to keep my new grass skirts dry.
I love too what you say about your wife in your final paragraph- I feel much the same about my own wife.
Nikki