Some great advice thanks.
I had to travel for a meeting across country 2 days ago with a stop overnight so decided to treat myself to a new negligee. I went into a large department store for it and a sales assistant asked if I needed help to which I replied I was looking for something for my wife. Naturally she asked about size and i came out with my usual about this tall and this wide. as I was so far away from home I just fessed up and said its to fit me actually. She raised an eyebrow then flashed me a huge smile and said right honey we are in the wrong section, follow me. I came out of the store with exactly what I wanted and feeling very good about myself.