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[sometimes_miss]

I have noticed since I have been dressing and reading posts here that I look more closely at people, females and wonder if it's a crossdresser. It's a strange feeling. Dose anyone else have this feeling.

Sadly, despite the wishes of those who go 'out' en femme, 99% are pretty easily read. The remaining 1% often also have visual give aways that signal to look at other items to verify, such as big hands, big feet, broad shoulders, facial shape, the list goes on and on. Voice is another obvious clue, as unconscious clearing of one's throat often comes out in a different tone than the voice. So it's usually pretty easy to spot someone even if you're not looking for it.

[firsttimedresser]

Lisa72
i have been looking at other women and thinking i can wear that dress better lol

Izzy

[Bima]

....that I look more closely at people, females and wonder if it's a crossdresser... Dose anyone else have this feeling.

Not looking for CDs, but seemingly got better at spotting CDs.

This Saturday however, I went to a small and close-by local restaurant/bar and the couple behind my table was a woman and a MtF CD couple. It was not very hard to spot; the CD guy was tall, had a manly posture and facial features, too high heels and short skirt (for this place), a male voice and hairy arms. Still I think he/she was extremely courageous, this area is way off the city, and that they came as a couple. An older drunk guy commented, as he did not reckon the situation due to his state, that "You were a tall gal" when the CD guy went over to pay at the bar.

Saw another CD in a thrift-store too, the other week. And, recently an extremely well dressed and passable CD waiting for the commuter train.

Then there have been a number of false positives too, women that I at first sight have thought where CDs but they were not. :-)

Before I started to dress myself, I would probably not have spotted them, or at least the latter two.

/Bima

[Marcelle]

I think the reality is that we (CDers) are minority in the population and from that sub-population and even smaller minority actually enter the Vanilla World. The probability of seeing a CDer (unless you look in the mirror) is probably the same as spotting the Ghost of Elvis riding a unicorn down main street. A lot of folks post they have seen one of the tribe out and about but can you truly be certain? I guess if you live in a place where it is more prevalent then I suppose. However for the most part, I believe we are very rare.

Hugs

Isha

[charlenesomeone]

I don't look anymore or less, but now I look and think, cute shoes, love that anklet.
So that's how you pair capris and dressy top, very nice.

[Pink]

Well, I can't say much because I just joined.

But at school, I never assumed anyone was a crossdresser. Not because I'm trying to be respectful or anything. I live in close-minded, redneck Arkansas.

[wiwaw]

I do the same. I think that i look closer because i secretly hope that there are many out there doing what i wish i could. Walking in public. The courage and evidence of local success in this area could lead me further.....

[Rhian]

I've not looked for it but I think I will make an effort to the next time I am somewhere busy, even if for a bit of reassurance that we are more common than first thought. I do wonder how many of us there are I suspect it's more than people would think but most of us are hiding in the closet, I hope at some point I can work up the confidence to go out and represent our community; although having said that if I can get my voice right I might be able to pass.

[VAWyman]

I work at a local hospital and personally know of three patients that are in transition. There are a couple others that I wonder about.