I'm literally writing this with tears in my eyes....I really don't know how much longer I can keep up this "charade" of pretending or not pretending to be who I am. I've been crossdressing since I was 13 (now 23). At age 18 I discovered that this was crossdressing and began to explore it more. The more I explored the more I discovered that I think I was transsexual. This frightened me to no end. So I hid it, tried to repress it, do anything I could to "get rid of it" and be happy as a male. This ended in many failed relationships with girls and one awful marriage that ended in divorce. While in the marriage I did everything I could to not want to "dress." This became unbearable. I was depressed, severely depressed. I was seeing a therapist but they just said I was wrong as they were Christian based and I was made a man! I was sinning for wanting to be a woman! That is another topic though. I had hoped marriage would "solve" the issue and I'd be "cured." Gosh I was far from it. Now here I am three months divorced during this separation I have been realizing yet again that I believe I am transsexual. The issue is, I'm scared out of my mind. I don't know what to do. I feel like everything I've ever known in this world is all of a sudden changed and completely different. I don't know which was is up or down anymore it seems. I try to be and act happy and put on a "happy face" and I do it pretty well. But I'm depressed, so much. I have parents who are still loving me but believe deep down I can get past this, be a man, have a "happy" family and kids, and just live life like "I'm supposed to and born to do." I don't know if I can do that. I'm still discovering who I am but I honestly think deep down I'm just still avoiding the fact that I know to be truth, I am transsexual. But that sends shudders down my spines and brings me to tears. Not because it is bad to be transsexual. But because I'm not sure I'm ready for that path. I have no idea how to be a "woman." I just know that I don't like my male body and I envy a woman's body. I don't feel like a man, never have. I've tried to act like one, but deep down I always identified with girls more and got along with them more, because I felt more like them. I feel like I'd be really happy having a vagina and boobs. Obviously, this is not the reason to get SRS, but just one of them. Another thing that frightens me is if I do go down this path, I'd just about 100% be a lesbian. While nothing wrong with that either, this country and my family in particular, still and ready and are still fighting "gay people." LGBT community is starting to make strides and I think it will continue to do so. But I not only would be changing my sex on the outside, but I'd (in a way) be changing my sexual orientation as well.
This is all so much. What I basically came to say is I'm scared. Very, very scared. I don't know what to do. How did you get past the fear???
P.S. I am seeing a therapist and she is fantastic. She helps me a lot. However, she is not well trained in gender dysphoria so I think at some point she just will no longer be able to help me.