Gosh I suck at this. If anyone read my introduction, I said that I wanted to do it right... and boy I tell ya, I sure am not doing this right.
I wrote this over the past few days and I wanted to share.
While I'm sure a lot of you here will understand it, I wanted to get it out.
1. I feel like I suck at this. While I came in kind of hot, I'm finding that I'm making more mistakes than I can count. Sure, I've done this in secret all my life... but I am finding I do not have the correct mindset here... nor the proper understanding of it all.
2. According to numerous writings my wife has provided me, I'm not at all what I thought I'd be when I went kind of public with this. Not in any way. Sure, I'm pretty confident in my looks and I'm happy I have the build I have... I'm still not all that thrilled with a handful of things. I'm just killing my wife still with the speed I'm going at all this. It causes fights, my wife cries that I don't get it... and I just don't know what to do or say.
3. I'm upset at myself. Why? A. I'm mad at myself for not telling my wife when we met. Forget the fact that I didn't do it all that much when we did, it wasn't huge. B. I'm chasing time... or it's chasing me. I hate the fact that I'm getting older and I don't think I look all that good.
4. Kaisa is a child evidently. She just wants & wants. Holding her back is a task and while I can do it, it just creates disturbances inside and I get wrestless... and angry.
This all causes that pendulum to swing wildly out of control... like in one big circle as it closes in on the drain. It's no simple back & forth nor is it predictable. One day I'm upset, the next I'm thinking my wife would be happier if I stopped it. When I get that way, it causes more problems and the blame game ensues.
Myself, I've always been an unruly one that's often arrogant... and a few other words. I hate rules... and these rules aren't like any other I've experienced.
Somedays I wish "IT" would stop. I've never purged, although I did put all my stuff away last week... for a few days that is. I thought that if I put it out of sight, I wouldn't think about it, but nope. I just got angry and resentful.
Bad Kaisa.
No worries, I am ok... but this crap is hard.