So quick background. My wife knows but she doesn't ask, I'm never supposed to tell.... (She's welcome to ask though)
Based on her feelings about crossdressing she doesn't want me to be officially girly. But then there are times when she wants me to act like a girl friend, shopping with her and ooohing and ahhing over her new purchases etc going to romantic comedy movies commiserating with her over problems with her friends. Catch is that if I let too much of my girl side out she's reminded that that side of me is bigger than she'd like and gets upset. Those things don't necessarily require me to be girly but I'd get more into it and get more out of it if I could let my girl interests out.
I love my wife and this is kind of a mini frustration in the grand scheme. I'm mostly just venting but I'll gladly take insight into my wife's mentality if anyone has them.