WOW! Thank you all for offering your encouragement, tips, advice, and cautionary tales!
Let's just say, yes, damnit, I'm going to go. I need to. I know I won't be attacked in a shoe store, so it'll be OK.
Once I'm in a situation, past the anxiety, I usually play the part well, head up, smile on my face. It's getting in the store, but my friend will be there to pull me in.
I'll report back! Not sure I'll be brazen enough to take selfies in the store, but we'll see. :-)
Dinner will be another night Jennifer! We have our TriEss Yankee swap and potluck that night.
And just as an aside, in response to Butterfly Bill's assertion about TriEss' preoccupation with passing, I'm not sure where you get that? Certainly not my chapter. We're accepting of anyone, we just focus on those with wives. However, you don't need one. And, we have folks who come with a beard, and you know what, it's fine! I've gotten more confidence from the wonderful ladies there than I ever could have guessed.
And Sally, how is it exactly, that we have never run into each other!? I have GOT to meet you and Lorraine one weekend.