Hi everyone! This is my first time here and I was just wondering if you guys would be able to help me understand my bfs newfound affinity for cross dressing.
So to give a little history, we are in our early 30's, and have been together almost 5 years. He had never said anything about having a desire to cross dress. Last year was the first time we tried it, and it started by me just doing his make-up...which I actually enjoyed...(he has really pretty hazel eyes) that happened probably twice, and then he introduced dressing up a few weeks later, which again I didn't mind. This probably happened about 2 or 3 times. We got a little sexual with it, but didn't actually go all the way.
Of course I had the normal worries, like, does this mean he's bi? Confused about his identity? Is he going to want to do this all the time? I questioned these things because I'm simply not educated enough about cross dressing to come to an accurate conclusion. We talked about it very openly, and he basically told me that he likes the feel of the clothes, he enjoys feeling "pretty/hot" and it doesn't mean anything more than that. He told me he has always had a special admiration for women (more so than other men). He assured me that he's very comfortable in his skin, and has no desire to become a woman, nor is he at all attracted to other men.
I wanna say it's been about a year since we've done it, he hasn't spoken about it so it hasn't come up. Recently it came up again, and he wanted to take it a step further and buy a corset and a bra that will make it look like he has cleavage. For some reason, this struck a cord with me...I couldn't help but wonder why he wants to alter a part of his body to look like the opposite sex. He assured me of the same things he did last year, stating that he doesn't think of it as anything more than mere "fun"... Which is fine with me, I want him to do whatever makes him feel good and be happy. But I wanted to know, either from other cross dressed or significant others of said cross dressers... What is it that makes this feel so good for them? He states that he just likes the way he looks/feels when dressed...how does he not question his own sexuality? He says it turns him on that we experience the whole thing together, and has expressed that he would like to have sex while dressed, and also for me to peg him (this isn't new to us, we've done that many times before). I feel like I MAY be okay with this, but it hasn't happened yet and I'm terrified that I might get weirded out and just feel like Im Having sex with a totally different person.
He told me that when he was younger, all he would watch was lesbian porn, and always wondered what it would be like to be one of the women. Is this a common thought among cross dressers? I just want to understand what is so enjoyable about it, and how he is able to dress up and still feel comfortable as a man. I want to understand it better, and he tells me that I'm overthinking it. He says he doesn't wonder about his sexuality at all, that I am all he wants and that will not change. He just finds the process of dressing up, as well as being dressed up, enjoyable.
Would anyone be able to shed some light on this? I just want to become more educated on the subject so I can understand him better. I am hoping that this can just become me learning and experiencing one more interesting thing about the person I love.
Thank you in advance for any advice!!!